Is being "ladylike" seen as a bad thing?

I'm very outgoing and extroverted, and am happy with my social life at uni, but I'm a bit "old fashioned" and "ladylike" in some respects, which sometimes hinders it. For example: -I do drink and don't mind being a bit tipsy on a night out, but often I just drink the free water from clubs which other people often criticise. I don't like getting really drunk for its own sake. I also don't like loads of drinks (beer etc.) but often on nights out the conversation seems to revolve around how what type of alcohol is best, the alcohol percentage of this drink is too low, etc etc etc. I can't understand the value of getting crazily drunk and doing silly things like getting injured or having an ONS you didn't want -I am quite moral and have good manners, but sometimes people seem to treat me worse because of it, or see me as being preachy. I find a lot of other people around my age a bit callous and selfish, whereas I'll only treat someone with disrespect if I actually think they deserve it, not for superficial reasons. Sometimes I find it hard to get along with male friends on nights out, because everyone is trying to hit on each other and I don't want to lead them on but then come across as stand-offish -I'm mean to those who try to bully me or others, but I generally try to act in a logical way, as opposed to being one of those people who just has to make small talk about the most meaningless things e.g. "that girl over there has a horrible dress" and so forth. I'm quite straight-talking and don't like gossip or cliquey behaviour (from either gender, I have known mummies' boys who are worse regarding this than most girls) -I have high standards regarding guys - I wouldn't get into a relationship with someone who wasn't a gentleman and didn't respect women. Some friends think it's weird I haven't even been on a date at 19, but I'd rather focus on my studies/sports etc. unless I meet someone whom I think will last long term, which is unlikely at my age -I don't sleep around; I probably won't have sex till marriage though I don't think sleeping around is necessarily immoral. I'm well-read about sex, but it's weird playing stuff like Never Have I Ever when people keep commenting about how "inexperienced" you are -I can be "too sensible" on nights out - for example, if we have tickets to a club that end at 11pm and everyone is still predrinking at ten to eleven, I'll be the one who orders taxis and tries to get everyone there on time. I don't mean to be a killjoy but I think there's a limit to the crazy stuff you should do while drunk and wasting a combined £50 of club tickets isn't one of them -I dress sexily but I hardly ever wear make up and heels unless I'm going to a ball or something. I look pretty OK naturally and don't like painting my face, and I play loads of sports and lift so don't want to ruin my feet with high heels. Guys tend to flock to the girls done up to the nines, which I'm OK with as I'm never trying to pull but then makes me seem like a loner if most of the people around me are flirting with each other all the time Any advice on what I could do to blend in a bit better without losing my sense of self?

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