My bf's ex has moved in with him

So I posted before about my boyfriend and the fact hisfamily are still dead close to his ex when I did that I thought it was complicated but now its more so! A bit of background I explained there: My boyfriends family are great - he has a 3 brothers,2 ofwho met there gfs at 14 and 16 I think and there still together & a twinsister who's been with her boyfriend for a year now. I really like them but Ido feel a bit like the new girl I guess cause there all close, like reallyclose. My boyfriend (who's 18 btw) broke up with his ex a year ago, quiteamicably until then he'd been with her since he was 15. From what I know herparents died when she was 13 and she lived with her gran and his family really kinda took her under there wing So like I said in that thread her parents died and shelives with her nan, so then the other day her nan passed away suddenly – whichis tragic and I feel really bad for her! And she called my bf like as soon asit happened & he dropped everything and went round – which is fine, I don'thave a problem at all! He knew her gran really well so who would she call buthim, and of course he should go, he's incredibly kind and that's one of thethings I love about him! His dad then told her to move in with them for a whilecause shes got nowhere else – which is again understandable but means that nowshes the 90% of the time rather than occasionally like I was saying in my otherthread. Then there was the funeral, obviously I didn't know hernan but they were all like 'yeah come come', so I went. And she was giving a eulogybut she was really struggling to do it so my bf got up and hugged her and hedid it instead (he did a really good speech considering he was making it up ashe went along). And then we went to the wake and he kind of got caught up standingwith her doing the whole thanking people for coming as they came and went so Iwas just sitting with his brothers & sister and there partners, which Idon't have a problem with because if he was he type of guy that would leave herto do that by herself he wouldn't be the guy that im in love with but you'knowwhen you can feel strangers looking at you like trying to work out where youfit in, I think people probably assumed he was with her, and I think herealised that too cause he brought it up when we were driving back. It wassomething like: Him: sorry I couldn't spend more time with you today. Webroke up on good terms, I still care about her and I knew her gran well and shedosent have anyone else, you get that yeah? Me: (what could i say?) yeah totally I get that, it'sfine. Him: I knew you would We drove for a bit Him: you don't like her though do you? (he was grinning) Me: I dont not like her...we're just very different Him: your not half as different as you think you are!Underneath all the bull***** she's not as tough as she makes out, she justpushes everyone away before they really know her that's why she ends up with noone! But I promise you in like 3yrs time you'll get on great! So then on top of all that Dane works at a boat yardwhich he really likes but mountain biking his passion and she's a photographer,she does work for magazines and she's somehow got his assignment on something mountain-bikeyand she's got him doing the tricks and everything, which again how can I beannoyed about that cause it's his dream to make a living on his bike and itsreally good exposure for him but its, I dunno, it's her and his project, and hetalks to me about it cause he's really excited about it, I guess its justanother thing they've got. And she's all daney this and daney that and yet whenwe're sitting on the sofa and he goes to hold my hand or put his arm round me Ifeel awkward like I shouldn't be doing that in front of her - tbh I feel likeI'm having an affair with MY own boyfriend!! Haha I mean it's ridiculous really, it's silly. I mean I know I sound like im moaning, which I guess I am, but I can't stress enough that he's great! he's so sweet and honest and romantic andeasy going and a little bit shy. I cant quite say why but my gut tells me I don't trust her as far as I could throw her but I trust him completely and utterly! - put simply he's my fairytale guy but just sometimes I I get this nagging feeling like maybeit's their fairytale…I just feel like I haven't got any options I cant tell hisfamily what to do, I cant tell him not to be nice to this girl when shes lostany family shes got, what kind of b*tch would that make me – but sometimes Ijust feel like a bit of a lemon! Any words of wisdom?

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