Is this really messed up? or is it just me?

Okay so i'm in a long distance relationship, 2 months in got cheated on, then found out she was pregnant when we got together. She has one baby already and i have one (i've been a single father for about 5 years). About a week ago she ended up hitting on one of my friends who had moved about 2 years ago to a town near her. She was hitting on him on a website didn't even talk to him long before giving him her phone number. Then she got kicked out of her parents house, so she is stripping now, the thing is she says she loves me but in the current situation i offered to let her move in with me and my daughter. Her response to this is I dont want any hand outs. When in further discussion b/c of the situation i asked why wont she take my offer seriously so she says "You have more life experiences then me, and i want to be able to go out and have fun" so she wants to be on her own. But my issue is its going to be another year and a half almost 2 years before we would be able to be together if she goes with the I just want to have fun approach. To me it seems like the relationship is the least important thing in her life and being able to have fun takes priority. (keep in mind i didn't know she already had a child till 3 months into the relationship shortly after i found out she was pregnant, who the father is the guy she ended up cheating on me with). I have a big heart and give ppl chances but this is just the tip of the iceberg and i'm not going to go into extensive detail about the other messed up things that has occured except for to say that noone would put up with what all i have and still stick with her at least noone in their right mind. So what i want to know is who thinks she is right for trying to put our relationship on hold and make me wait for such a long period of time before she decides she really wants to be with me b/c its more important to have fun without your bf being around. (this would be a good point to say she basicly refuses to see me, and she refuses to make time for us to even talk b/c it interferes with her going out with her friends.

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