| Alright, long time lurker, first time poster here. Apologies in advance if this is all over the place. Not exactly sure what I'm looking for, guess just comments/thoughts etc… Just feel like I need to put something down in writing. So here we go, I'm married with two kids for about three years. In the past year or so our sex life has gone downhill. Now there are numerous reasons for this, from kids to stress at work etc. The one that sticks out to me however was the fact that I've gone "soft" a bunch of times. Now the first few times, no biggie but after it happened in successive "attempts" my wife let it be known how "frustrating/pissed off" she is about it. Now I used to watch porn and masturbate frequently but since that stuff started happening I've given that up (still masturbate the occasional time, but nowhere near what I was doing before). I've tried herbal to no avail, so went to the doctor. Now this doesn't happen all the time, just occasionally however when you only have sex probably an average of once a month it doesn't help. Doctor said I have very low "Testosterone" which could be part of the problem so I have been on Andorgel for the past two months. It hasn't seemed to help however as my desire is zilch. I've been told to take the androgel for three months but feel like I want to get tested at two and possibly try something else. I know low "T" isn't the end all of everything but I certainly believe it will help. On a side note, I frequently fantasize about my wife and the things I will do to her. When push comes to shove though, I got nothing. The few times I have tried she's either been "not in the mood" or "depressed with the state of her life". We have two kids and real difficult 1 yr old. Add this to my "issues" and it doesn't seem like it will get any better soon. Now one thing I will say is I love, make that LOVE to give oral. I could easily do that every morning. However nice it may seem, she wants penetration to follow. Now to try to spice things up/get back into it I've recently bought some items that we've talked in the past about trying but never have (light bondage). I'm curious to try it out on her as I think it would be quite the shock and she's mentioned numerous times for me to be more aggressive. I just need to get over that horrible feeling in my head that I will go to this effort only to have a "softy" and her to get pissed all over again. Actually that's a bad way to put it. Effort assumes I'm doing it as chore which is not the case at all. Like I've said before I frequently fantasize about these things, just a matter of "growing" a pair I guess. I've been feeling especially horrible of late because she has put a lot of effort in the past few months from wearing sexy nighties and undies. When she does this I have no problem getting hard and "having fun" so to speak. She says she shouldn't need to do that all the time however. I agree and disagree at the same time. True she shouldn't need to dress for the occasion every time but I certainly enjoy it. Now here's a question, should I be able to get hard without any stimulation (from myself or her)??? From what I gather she wants me to look at her in her flannel pajamas get hard instantly and go. For a bit of background, she is definitely the stronger "alpha" type and is normally the one that initiates. This also frustrates her, which I totally understand. However I find it hard to get my motor running when all I hear about is how frustrated/not happy she is, also fear of failure. She is also usually angry most of the time; I am constantly worried about doing something/saying something that will set her off. She has gone to the doctor about this and has been referred to someone that she can talk to. Frankly I feel I might get some benefit from talking to someone as well. Anyway, thanks for reading. Not too sure what will come of this, it sure is nice to put something down in writing though. | |||
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