| Hi, I'm new to this site, but it looks like there is an abundance of information and support. I look forward to everyone's feedback. Anyway, here goes, I am 37, my wife is 34, we have been together 9 years, married 6years. Things were great until about a year after we got married, first her sex drive dropped to the point it rarely happened, then she started pushing me away, literally. I would go to snuggle or give her a hug and she would push me a way and tell me to leave her alone. This went on, sometimes it would get better and then worse, so I chalked it up to adjusting to married life. However, in the back of my mind I always thought this was strange as We lived together before we were married. Years passed 2 children later and it has gotten much worse. There is pity sex once every 3 to 4 months, when I hug her she just stand there with her arms at her side, sometimes she will put her head on my chest if I'm lucky. She is now angry mo st of the time and screams at me at the drop of a hat. Last week I was away on business for 4 days (only happens 2x per year)and when I came home she wouldn't say hi to me, she just told the kids to say hi to me. I unpacked and as soon as the kids she babysits for went home she shot out the door and said I need to get out of here before I freak out. I said we'll that's fine, but I haven't seen for a few days and I wanted to give you a hug. She told me she didn't need a hug from me and left. When she came back, I was supportive and asked if she was OK and why she had such a bad day. She then screamed at me and said I should know better to ask that question, after a period of her screaming at me I told her that was inappropriate and walked away and didn't talk to her the rest of the evening. She did apologize and over the weekend was somewhat approachable. Then on Monday, she screamed and swore at me when I asked if 1pm would work for going to my mom's for Mother's Day , again stating I should know how the family works by now and that's when the kids nap. Keep in mind, the previous day she told me either lunch or dinner would work. When I pointed this out she said 11am is lunch and I should have told my mother that. I never eat lunch at 11am, so not sure where that came from. Anyway, I think you get the picture, everyday there is a new rule I have to follow and if I don't I am an idiot and she either yells, makes a derogatory comment, or tells me I should know this. She says nothing is wrong and she is happy, she doesn't think anything is wrong. She won't see a marriage counselor and refuses to talk about it. I'm not sure what to do anymore, I am so lonely, at the moment, my kids are the only thing keeping me there. If I left, I would get stuck paying child support and alimony for our 2 kids. Sorry being long winded, I could go on for days with this. Though? |
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