Separation Etiquette

Hi all. This is my first post. I want to know if anyone has heard of a cheating spouse who decides he wants out of a very long term marriage, however, he proceeds to start moving kitchen and other household items about a month before moving day to the new house, and then on moving day, just before he moves everything including the dog and cat into a big truck with his brother and son to help him, he tells me "You're not coming." So he leaves me, the still-in-shock spouse with no house, no furniture, and literally nowhere to go and no friends or family to stay with. Background, both my H, the cheating spouse and me, the dumbfounded spouse, were planning on moving, however with big reservations about where the marriage was going. Apparently at some point, my H, the cheating spouse decided he wanted to "live alone" (ha ya right) and being the strong manly-man type, I guess he couldn't get up the nerve to tell me of his change of plans until the morning the moving truck came along with his backup boys. To say I was taken aback a bit is an understatement, I was actually quite angry at first and in shock. The way he told me that I wasn't coming was so odd, underhanded, and almost whispered under his breath when he told me at the last second that, well, it left me not thinking straight. Not straight enough to tell him he can only take his clothes and get the hell out. (Hindsight is....) Anyway, it seems to me that most people who want to leave a marriage, especially after having an affair, it is that person who leaves and moves elsewhere, normally. Or in the very least, the couple can discuss things like normal adults do. Do cheating husbands (or cheating wives) do things this weird and do it a way that is so oblivious to reality, like living arrangements, financial considerations, and do it without thinking how mean it is to do to the other person and really think it's OK? It's like we never were married or knew each other. Thanks for any input. BTW, I'm not in shock like i was but I sure I had the where-with-all back when this shocking moment happened. Also, I did call our MC and she told me he said he'd rent me apartment in town. I told her "well, he didn't tell me or talk to me about anything and why would I want to live in a an apartment anyway? He didn't tell me this until he opened the door for moving buddies and truck." Sign me, whatever

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