Hitting the stop button on the movies

I have read several threads about BS's playing the movies in their head after dDay. I remember when I was the BS 12 years ago, and the movies would drive me crazy. Especially because the OW was my best friend, and I had helped her decorate her bedroom, and I could picture everything happening in technicolor! I also knew from her personality that she was a wildcat in the bedroom, and I always wondered if my husband had better sex with her. So here is what I did....when the movie in my head would start, I would mentally picture myself walking over to the player machine and hitting the stop button. And then I would say to myself, " I have hit the stop button, this movie is over for now". And I would have to do that a million times a day at first, but eventually the movies just stopped playing. I hope this simple technique helps someone. It is a terrible pain to go through. I have heard that the only thing worse is the death of a child. I felt like I had been physically stabbed. I just couldn't even breath. But eventually, after lots of time has passed, counseling, learning communication techniques, and getting passed triggers....it WILL become this terrible thing that happened, but it won't hurt anymore. You will remember it, but the knife in your back will be gone. You will be able to breath again. Hang in there!

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