Hubby cheated and now there's a baby??

Me and hubby was on a rough patch in our marriage and the worst happens, he gets orders to korea for a year, me and kids stays in states. While there he grows further apart and after 9 months of being there, he cheats with another soldier. They slept together a lousy 5 times, over a course of 1 month) no emotions or nothing just sex. They both agreed to be sex partners and she knew he was married, but after 5 times they stop because it started to eat on his conscious, but she got pregnant. A month later he came back to the states and how ironic that our marriage was better in these 7 months than its been in a while, maybe it was the separation, so it made it harder for him to tell me. I didnt know anything. Ofcourse I was/still am blown away. Our marriage wasnt that great but still betrayal hurts. Im in therapy now and she ask only i know if im married to a jerk, loser good for nothing man or a man who is decent but messed up really bad. Deep in m y heart I feel he messed up really bad. I mean we married young, made mistakes (had affection/communication issues) and so its like we never had that strong bond but yet we both want to really work on it for us and our 2 kids. So he has repented and we are working on it. Its hard though. But I know with God grace and our willingness this marriage could work and actually be better thatn it ever was. But now its the thing with a baby being here. How much easy if it wasnt a baby. But he will be supporting the baby. Although I feel he should atleast do a paternity test first. Im not/wont stop him from having whatever relationship he wants to have with the child. It didnt come from me and sadly I had nothing to do with it being here and I know the baby is innocent. Based on the circumstance in which the baby was born as of now he states theres no kind of connection with the baby, but he does wants him to know who is dad is. But Im wanting to work on my marriage/family and move on with my life, not something that been forced on me. We was here first before his cheating and its consequences. Its been travesty, I just want to move on with the four people I chosed to be with him and our kids together and give the marriage a chance it never had. We are his family and thats his son and whatever relationship he choose to have is up to him. But all of this could change, Im just learning of all of this so ofcourse Im still pretty hurt but right now I dont see it happening no time soon...... Altho im pro-life its like what was the girl hoping to gain from sleeping with a married man 5 times only to get pregnant. Now shes on fb saying how paying support doesnt make you father etc etc, yet she wont put the entire story as to how she got in this predicament. I mean its just an all around mess. Noone wins, and sadly there will be consequences. And there's never going to be a perfect solution to consequences. He cheated and almost lost his family and now having to deal with an outside child, she cheated with him and now having to raise a child alone??? ugh....just sad....... Suggestions?????

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