So....
Basically, there is this guy who I hang around with quite alot & we are quite good friends, but I think he really "likes" me and I am quite frankly a little worried about it.
We've only known each other since the middle of September when the course started.
We both take the same college course which means we have the EXACT same timetable so are pretty much together the majority of the time.
Although he hasn't officially asked me out, I'm pretty sure hes going OTT with signals of trying to express he likes me & as much as I appreciate the kind gestures and such, I do sometimes get annoyed but I try not to as I don't want to come across as an ungrateful spoilt so and so.
For example:
-He goes with me everywhere. He's like a shadow, literally when I'm at college the only place I can go without him following me is the ladies room!!!
-If we go into the shopping centre he always wants to buy me something. If he offered to get me a hot chocolate or something, that would be fine, but he wants to buy me DVDs, Clothes, Video games...
-He keeps trying to impress me.
-He flirts with me via texts sometimes.
-Everyone else told me the other day when he dissapeared briefly that he never stops talking about me.
Like I said, I think hes a wonderful person, I value his friendship (we always find something to talk about) and I appreciate the things he does for me.
I just hate rejecting people. I've friendzoned him once when he was getting really flirty with me a few months ago but I don't think he has got the message as I know hes going to ask me out again.
Here comes the dramatic plot twist...
There is another guy (we'll call him guy B so things don't get confusing) also doing the same course who I happen to have a crush on. Hes also a good friend and does things for me, chats with me, makes me laugh etc. I haven't shown any signs I like guy B yet BUT I feel more comfortable with him as he doesn't go Over The Top like Guy A seems too.
The even bigger plot twist is that Guy A & Guy B kind of dislike each other. Or at least tolerate each other. They seem to get on but at least once a week get annoyed and antsy with one another.
If I were to ask Guy B out, I would probably wait a few more months as I would want to be sure I knew him well enough (as Guy A is always around it is sometimes harder to have a straight, honest and non-awkward conversation with other people).
Guy A also seems to get angry easily if something annoys or upsets him.
Having 0% experience in relationships doesn't help either.
I'm really happy at college, this whole situation is the only thing bothering me. Other than that I'm quite happy.
So I have a few problems.
1) How do I get Guy A to back off a little but without harming our friendship?
2) I'm worried that if I reject Guy A but then ask out Guy B someone will get hurt (not necessarily the 3 of us but other classmates may get involved as we are all quite close friends, I don't want people taking sides).
3) As we all take the same course and spend alot of time together would it be better to just stay friends with both of them anyway?
I know I sound pathetic and ungrateful and probably a bit of a hopeless case but if anyone has some useful advice I really would appreciate it!
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