I really need some help.
I met a girl, thought she was great, became friends. She told me from the get go she had a bf. Was a bit disappointed but at the time thought ok no worries we can be friends.
Over time, we became really close friends. And my feelings never went away. So as I got closer, my feelings became more stronger. Anyway, being an idiot, I admitted my feelings to her and she said I'm sorry I have a bf, don't be selfish, etc.
Anyway she did say to me, I can't think can't be friends coz I don't want you to be sad. I said no don't worry I'll be fine. And within a week we were talking like normal.
So over the past year she is pretty much the only girl I talk her. I haven't looked for other girls to talk to. I am just sort of stuck in a rut. I am not over her. I don't even know what I am doing, or what I am expecting to be honest.
I am in the friendzone I guess. Real deep.
I am also very attached and clingy towards her. I always stay with her at uni, she's pretty much my main (female) friend.
I am get very jealous when I see her talking to other guy friends. I can't control myself.
Anyway, I know I sound like a total idiot and pathetic but I am being honest here.
Today, she said to me, "why don't you talk to other girls?" "U won't find a gf if you don't even look around" etc etc.
And BOOM. That hit a nerve. I thought to myself, WTF is wrong with me? Why am I running around after this girl. I am doing everything for her, I am always available for her. I'm not treating her like a friend. I am doing too much for her, and when she doesn't do the same for me, I get hurt and upset etc.
So, my question to you guys is how do I change myself? What do I need to do? I am serious here and I have realised so many mistakes I have made with said girl. Some examples being:
- too clingy/attached
- not talking to other girls
- being her b*** I guess you could say
- getting upset over small things
- basically just not acting like a man
- getting jealous when I have no right to
I really like this girl. Like no other. But we can never be together. I need to get over her. I see her all the time in uni and it is hard seeing her knowing I like her but I HAVE TO CHANGE.
So can anyone offer me some tips or advice as to what I need to do, how I can change my bad habits mentioned above and anything else that might be helpful to me?
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