Hi,
This is probably stupid, but I just want some advice or something.
My ex boyfriend was kind of....pushy. That's not really the right word, but he pressured me and badgered until I did some things I really didn't want to do. I even said no. He just asked again 5 minutes later, took that no as a yes and did stuff...eventually I managed to break up with him last june.
The problem is, I couldn't tell him the real reason, I have social anxiety which I think made it worse. I cared about him and he didn't realise what he was doing, he seemed to really care about me too and I didn't want to hurt him. Especially as he had self harmed in the past.
But he kept contacting me. He came into school, would come over, touch my legs, act like we were still a couple. It was weird. He knew we'd broken up. He'd sent messages to my mum rather than me, as well, just asking 'is she on Skype atm?'' and so on.
Luckily, then it was the summer holidays, and I just avoided him. I haven't gone into the shop he works in since then just in case, even though he's gone to uni now. He left a few weeks ago I think.
But a few days ago he sent another facebook message. I feel rude ignoring it, I felt rude not wishing him a happy birthday either but I felt it would cause problems. I want him to meet someone else and be happy.
I don't think I could be happy with him, but especially last june he seemed to think we'd get back together at some point. If I reply, won't I reinforce that in his head? I can't. I miss him too, I care about him. I'm starting to forget a lot of the reasons I broke up with him. But I know it would be impossible in a relationship with him, it wouldn't work. I'd just avoid him again. .
I don't know what to reply, what to say. It seemed a simple message, 'Long time no see, I'm at uni now, how are you? This is happening....'
I feel like I have to reply, but I just don't know what to do. I don't want to get back together and it sort of feels that's what he's aiming for.
Sorry, just thought someone might help, I'm probably being stupid, sorry.
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