He is usually a really sweet person, but sometimes he gets annoyed easily and snaps at me over small things. This seems to be happening more and more often. An example is when he was staying at mine for the weekend, we were doing "stuff", then I told him I loved him but he didn't reply. I said "why did you not say it back?" and he said "what, did you say I love you?", I said yes and after a pause he said it back but I think it sounded like he didn't really mean it. We started to talk about something else but I was still thinking about it a little, then a minute later I said "did you not say it back because you think I mostly only say it after doing stuff like that" and he said in a really aggressive way "f***ing h***, I said I didn't hear you". I then went to get my pyjamas on and when I came back he was in bed facing away from me and I got in bed and switched off the lamp but he stayed exactly like that without saying anything else when he usually cuddles me or s omething as we go to sleep. Another time I said something, I can't remember what it was but it wasn't something that should have annoyed him, and he said "hold on a minute" and I said "what are you doing?" and he said "I am counting so I don't get angry".
It's like I am scared to say anything sometimes and I don't like how he can be like this. We've been together for a year and it makes me wonder what it would be like when we have been together longer and are even more comfortable with each other and even maybe move in together. I don't know if it's my fault because I annoy him sometimes by questioning things. He says that I dig into things and find things wrong all the time when they are not there. I admit I can over-analyse stuff and I can be over-sensitive but I can't help it and I usually don't let it show how much I really analyse stuff like this. I don't know what to do because this cycle of him snapping at me, me going in a huff, him apologising and it starting again seems to be getting a bit of a habit... :(
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