I think I'm falling out of love with my husband. It's recent that I've started feeling this way and I'm hoping it's a phase. Background: we met when I was 16 and he 18. We have been together 11 years(married for 4). We recently had a child. He is 1 year old.
I've been feeling very alone for a while now. He has very odd sleeping hours. So much so that he goes to bed at 3 or 4 am and doesn't get up till noon. I'm basically by myself for half the day. Much of the time he is tired or grumpy if I ask him to get up earlier. I have been very open and honest about how this effects me/makes me feel. But he doesn't change. He is also just moody all the time. I can't ask him to do any chores around the house without getting glared at like I'm a nag. He plays lots of video games and constant online video browsing. ugh
One thing I haven't been honest with him about is our sex life. Is seems he is only happy after we have sex. and he wants to have sex all the time. I almost never want to have sex (not sure if I am sexually attracted to him or if I just don't feel like a sexual person). He consistently does things in bed or buys toys when he KNOWS I dislike them. We still have sex 2-3 times per week because I'd rather him be happy than moody.
Lately I have been looking at other men. Dressing up to go places with the girls. thinking to myself, oh that guy is cute. I haven't acted on any of these feelings, but I worry where it's leading. This is my most worrisome issue. Cause we've gone through bad months before, but never did I wonder....'hmmm, I wonder what it would have been like to be with someone else.'
Now, the big question about bringing all this up with him. Do I? Do I see if it passes? I worry about hurting his feelings and never being able to have that close relationship I used to have with him. I'm sure he doesn't know of how I'm feeling (he probably just thinks I've been moody/quiet). Is this the time to go to counseling? I haven't talked to any of my family or friends about this because he would hate if I did that. Advice?
I've been feeling very alone for a while now. He has very odd sleeping hours. So much so that he goes to bed at 3 or 4 am and doesn't get up till noon. I'm basically by myself for half the day. Much of the time he is tired or grumpy if I ask him to get up earlier. I have been very open and honest about how this effects me/makes me feel. But he doesn't change. He is also just moody all the time. I can't ask him to do any chores around the house without getting glared at like I'm a nag. He plays lots of video games and constant online video browsing. ugh
One thing I haven't been honest with him about is our sex life. Is seems he is only happy after we have sex. and he wants to have sex all the time. I almost never want to have sex (not sure if I am sexually attracted to him or if I just don't feel like a sexual person). He consistently does things in bed or buys toys when he KNOWS I dislike them. We still have sex 2-3 times per week because I'd rather him be happy than moody.
Lately I have been looking at other men. Dressing up to go places with the girls. thinking to myself, oh that guy is cute. I haven't acted on any of these feelings, but I worry where it's leading. This is my most worrisome issue. Cause we've gone through bad months before, but never did I wonder....'hmmm, I wonder what it would have been like to be with someone else.'
Now, the big question about bringing all this up with him. Do I? Do I see if it passes? I worry about hurting his feelings and never being able to have that close relationship I used to have with him. I'm sure he doesn't know of how I'm feeling (he probably just thinks I've been moody/quiet). Is this the time to go to counseling? I haven't talked to any of my family or friends about this because he would hate if I did that. Advice?
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