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I have been married for 4 years. Last year we moved to this new town because I could not stand his family. I got a new job and he decided to pursue his dream. I paid for his tuition and everything . life was terrible, we fought all the time and became distant. He wanted to move out but decided not to.
Then he got a job and started to change : his entire wardrobe, his looks, etc. We moved to a better place and he started to pay the rent but would say things like "I paid for this place so I can do whatever if you don't like it get out". And so I did, I left.
We met after 8 days later. He was really sad. He then admitted that there was currently a girl who likes him but he felt immoral because after I left he has thoughts of dating her. I didn't go back.
5 days later, I found out that a few months ago he dated 2 girls that he met online and have been writing emails almost every day to each other. It lasted for 2 months.
I was so mad that I called and we had a heartfelt conversation. He told me that he couldn't take me scolding him all the time and not loving him like I used to. For the entire year we just fought and nothing he did was right. We came to an agreement and decided to change.
The day we got back together, he admitted that he actually went out with that girl twice just to hang out and I was so hurt because it was only 13 days. He explained it was because my love for him was gone a long time ago and hence he has been craving for love and care for a year. He also told me that girl was very sweet and he wanted me to be sweet too, he wanted a feeling back. He said that I was mean to him all the time and perhaps a compliment every now and then would be nice.
So we started this dating process, I began to love him like I used to but I feel that he doesn't want me back. I wanted to move back but he said no because he feels that I would hurt him again by leaving. He doesn't reply my texts or emails, and all I know is that he is different. I feel that he is actually dating that girl. Even though he told me no many times.
On Friday, I called him because I missed him and he agreed to meet on sat even though we have previously agreed to meet on Monday. He went on about how he was so hurt because I left and he doesn't trust me because I snooped around. He said he did nothing wrong for all he did was to meet some girls who would care to listen to him. And then he said he should have moved out and then dated them. Then he said he wanted to be alone and doesn't want to see me on sat. I was so mad because I did nothing to instigate this and I feel that he is just trying to get mad so that he has a reason not to meet me because he already has plans on sat. He has done this before yell at me for no reason and then disappeared for hours. I told him we are done and I will file the papers for divorce.
When I left I was planning to come back after I have sorted my thoughts out and I was so happy to come back. I was so happy to see him everyday but yet he doesn't want to see me everyday. I didn't leave to hurt him in fact leaving was perhaps the only choice to save this marriage.
But I feel that perhaps I was too late in coming back for him. Within 13 days, another girl has stolen his heart. I love him so much but yet he is gone.
Yesterday, he emailed me asking if I was really done. What can I say? I have to say yes and move on. If I tell him that I want to come back, won't I be getting the same feeling and the same treatment?
Any thoughts are greatly appreciated.
I have been married for 4 years. Last year we moved to this new town because I could not stand his family. I got a new job and he decided to pursue his dream. I paid for his tuition and everything . life was terrible, we fought all the time and became distant. He wanted to move out but decided not to.
Then he got a job and started to change : his entire wardrobe, his looks, etc. We moved to a better place and he started to pay the rent but would say things like "I paid for this place so I can do whatever if you don't like it get out". And so I did, I left.
We met after 8 days later. He was really sad. He then admitted that there was currently a girl who likes him but he felt immoral because after I left he has thoughts of dating her. I didn't go back.
5 days later, I found out that a few months ago he dated 2 girls that he met online and have been writing emails almost every day to each other. It lasted for 2 months.
I was so mad that I called and we had a heartfelt conversation. He told me that he couldn't take me scolding him all the time and not loving him like I used to. For the entire year we just fought and nothing he did was right. We came to an agreement and decided to change.
The day we got back together, he admitted that he actually went out with that girl twice just to hang out and I was so hurt because it was only 13 days. He explained it was because my love for him was gone a long time ago and hence he has been craving for love and care for a year. He also told me that girl was very sweet and he wanted me to be sweet too, he wanted a feeling back. He said that I was mean to him all the time and perhaps a compliment every now and then would be nice.
So we started this dating process, I began to love him like I used to but I feel that he doesn't want me back. I wanted to move back but he said no because he feels that I would hurt him again by leaving. He doesn't reply my texts or emails, and all I know is that he is different. I feel that he is actually dating that girl. Even though he told me no many times.
On Friday, I called him because I missed him and he agreed to meet on sat even though we have previously agreed to meet on Monday. He went on about how he was so hurt because I left and he doesn't trust me because I snooped around. He said he did nothing wrong for all he did was to meet some girls who would care to listen to him. And then he said he should have moved out and then dated them. Then he said he wanted to be alone and doesn't want to see me on sat. I was so mad because I did nothing to instigate this and I feel that he is just trying to get mad so that he has a reason not to meet me because he already has plans on sat. He has done this before yell at me for no reason and then disappeared for hours. I told him we are done and I will file the papers for divorce.
When I left I was planning to come back after I have sorted my thoughts out and I was so happy to come back. I was so happy to see him everyday but yet he doesn't want to see me everyday. I didn't leave to hurt him in fact leaving was perhaps the only choice to save this marriage.
But I feel that perhaps I was too late in coming back for him. Within 13 days, another girl has stolen his heart. I love him so much but yet he is gone.
Yesterday, he emailed me asking if I was really done. What can I say? I have to say yes and move on. If I tell him that I want to come back, won't I be getting the same feeling and the same treatment?
Any thoughts are greatly appreciated.
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