Last night we had an argument witch set me off again it would seem to be a harmless thing I told her that our communication suffers big time and I feel myself ignored. Let me show you my prospective at it. We are trying to buy a piece of property 2 bedroom condo pretty beat up place which has lots of work to do it has some water damage. When I woke up she wasn't feeling good so I decided to cook for her I though it would make her feel better. I grilled some chicken cooked some potato and omelet the the way she likes. It turned out that she didn't want it instead she told my friend when he came over to go to Wawa and get something for her when I was in the same room with her. I thought ok it is fine she doesn't feel well I will do it I got what she wanted then a lit bit later my friend left it seemed like she felt better n I decided to tell her that we need to go to home depot and buy some boxes and tape because we are going to move out by the end of this month n it is important to pack everything n find storage unit so we could vacate the current apartment we live in time n no stress. At first she told me that she would do it then she told me that she wanted to do her hair I said ok sure I will. I washed her hair then we were watching some documentaries when I switched the channel she got mad at me and told me that she was watching it told her ok switch it as didn't know what channel it was and she told me no it is fine I said ok than. Her hair dryed and I asked her if she is ready to go she lay on the floor and closed her eyes she told me that I can go with my friend. We really need some boxes so I said ok I will go. At this moment I really started feeling like she goes back into her cycle of silent treatments, it makes me unworthy and guilty just this night after our argument I found out that silent treatment is a form of emotional abuse it seems to me as if she uses it as a weapon as well as sex to get what she wants or to prove her point trying to control and manipulate me in the way she wants. She is making me scared talking or act in my natural state, silent treatment upsets me a lot. I thought ok in the back of my mind maybe it just seems this way. I came back home after an hour or so with all of the supplies we need to move out. We sat quiet for a while then her dad called her phone and they spoke. When she finished I asked her if dad was still ok with that fact that we a planning to move into his house in the end of this month. She said that she didn't want to talk about it tonight I asked her again and she said this time that he is ok with it asked her why we wouldn't check some storage places now before i go to work soon n she said that we can do it tomorrow after we see our agent first and i told her didn't make a difference when we look for it because we still will need to move out. She said that she didn't feel like doing it I asked her to check it online couple of days before but she didn't do it. Then everything started going wrong i told something and she did n then she told me that I'm accusing her of everything. I got angry because i didn't know how to cope with all of this. After our trip to see my parents for the first time she told me that i have changed. I just missed my family and I was focused on getting the most out of that trip. Not to mention that I didn't see my family for almost 5 years. We got married around one year and a half ago, my wife is pregnant right now and we are expecting now she is almost 6 months pregnant. We were fighting for the last couple of months. We had our issues with sexbefore she got pregnant but right now it gets much much worse and I really feel like she is taking it to the next level. She always told me that I just was trying to make her feel bad about sex. Almost every time when we had sex she never showed any amorions I felt like I was raping her. Recently she told me that she had some deep issues caused by her past relationships. My wife told me that her ex boyfriend was an abusive man always put her down, called her names and didnt give her any room to breathe. So very recently I found out that it is me who is abusive because she starts seeing the same paterns in me. She said that she cant open up sexualy to me because of her past hurt. I feel myself like a hostage in this situation. Please tell me what to do I feel real lost today we gonna go for a conseling I really want to do it. She still gives me silent treatment and we dont have any sex at the moment at all.
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