Things with my ex-husband are actually going pretty well. I have to admit that I love the fact we can text so there is less actual face time/phone time spent with one another.
He is still adjusting to being a single parent in some aspects. Our divorce decree said that he would get the kids 3 weekends out of the month. I let him run with it for a bit, but you could see how tired he was. I asked him when his lawyer said 3 weekends if he was sure that he could handle it, he said yes so I backed off. That lasted a month. I offered after a month to go back to every other weekend and maybe him taking the kids to dinner once a week to make up the difference. He seemed happy about it and has been doing great.
Our oldest is autistic, so he has ABA on Monday and Friday. Every other Friday it is his job to pick him up from school at 1145 and then drop him off at therapy until 3. Kung Fu for the kids starts at 4 and ends at 6. Makes for a long day. He forgot the time last week and picked out oldest up about an hour late. I was there for an IEP meeting, so when I saw him I was confused, thinking he had wanted to be in the meeting. When he said he was there to get our son and take him to ABA, I told him he was an hour late, and then said "hey, it is okay, it happens".
Things are friendly but we are by no means friends. I think this is going really well and that we are both doing well at putting what the kids need first. A few friends voiced concern that I am being too nice, but I don't see the problem. Is there a problem and I don't see it? As far as his "3 weekends a month" thing is concerned, I have emails to show the change was agreed upon and that he can go back to the old way whenever he wants.
He is still adjusting to being a single parent in some aspects. Our divorce decree said that he would get the kids 3 weekends out of the month. I let him run with it for a bit, but you could see how tired he was. I asked him when his lawyer said 3 weekends if he was sure that he could handle it, he said yes so I backed off. That lasted a month. I offered after a month to go back to every other weekend and maybe him taking the kids to dinner once a week to make up the difference. He seemed happy about it and has been doing great.
Our oldest is autistic, so he has ABA on Monday and Friday. Every other Friday it is his job to pick him up from school at 1145 and then drop him off at therapy until 3. Kung Fu for the kids starts at 4 and ends at 6. Makes for a long day. He forgot the time last week and picked out oldest up about an hour late. I was there for an IEP meeting, so when I saw him I was confused, thinking he had wanted to be in the meeting. When he said he was there to get our son and take him to ABA, I told him he was an hour late, and then said "hey, it is okay, it happens".
Things are friendly but we are by no means friends. I think this is going really well and that we are both doing well at putting what the kids need first. A few friends voiced concern that I am being too nice, but I don't see the problem. Is there a problem and I don't see it? As far as his "3 weekends a month" thing is concerned, I have emails to show the change was agreed upon and that he can go back to the old way whenever he wants.
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