| Hi, I'm wandering do girls watch porn? I'm a girl who has watched it but then felt really bad about it afterwards as if i shouldn't have done! I've only ever watched it alone. Is this normal? | |||
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Do girls watch porn?
Cultural differences - German vs British
| Hello TSR, I've not OP-ed for a long time, so bear with me. I'm a British born black woman living in London, have quite a lot of experience with dating white British men, been out with a British Indian, Nepalese guy and also dated a Polish film student for a while. I am now dating a white German guy (early days, 2 mths). I have to say that I find his dating behaviour a bit unusual. I find his communication/talking manner rather cold and emotionless, a bit detatched and unengaged to the point that I'm finding it hard to gauge how into me he is. That said, he does the asking out for dates/dinner, is incredibly forward (too much for my taste) and passionate sexually and is almost smothering with his affection during the night (I cant sleep tightly gripped to his chest, but I do enjoy it for a time). He hardly ever compliments me or says anything about what he likes about me or how he feels towards me although we do chat about things in general. His eye contact is VERY sparing; it even seems that he finds it difficult to look at me. He also speaks very very quietly. Does anyone have any experience dating German people from a Brit perspective? Out of all of the different nationalities/backgrounds I've dated, I've never really had this problem with awkward communication style. Does this sound normal? Do you think it's down to the individual or more of a cultural thing? And general comments from everyone welcomed of course. | |||
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What do you say to your partner?
| So my girl said to me that she will only have sex with me after 10 months into our relationship. I haven't replied to her yet and it has only been 2 weeks into the relationship! I don't know what to say, I love her but I enjoy having sex as well. I am not sure how to tackle this situation and I don't know of the relationship will last for 10 months at least even. Posted from TSR Mobile | |||
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My husband lacks motivation
| Marriage is work. 50/50. Growing up my mom was a housewife and ran a business at home to make pocket money for herself. She was either running a daycare, raising foster children, or painting ceramics for sale. My father was hard worker who always had his own business with employees. In the other hand, my husband was raised in a broken home and with a step dad who never worked and mom who worked two jobs while trying to finish college. My husband has been laid off for over a year. When I asked him when he is planning on working to bring in a little more income. He told me I need to work for a change. That blew my mind. I was upset, because I grew up believing everything should be 50/50 and I thought that is what we both wanted too in this marriage, but my husband's beliefs have changed. I don't know where things have gone wrong. I have to work to support our family. I have to go to school because I want a better career. I have to clean the house because who will? It's like I am in a deadlock. If he doesn't do his part I gotta do it too. I have turned into his mother. I'm not even his wife anymore, because we don't even have sex! He doesn't have respect for me and it makes me feel like he's a coward. I have threatened to kicked him out and it works but not for long. It's like this is what he wants. To be at disagreement all the time. The only reason I am staying is because we have a son together. If it wasn't for our little boy I would've been bailed. Since I am staying I'm trying to find solutions if there is any??? | |||
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Compare myself to other women during sex
| My self esteem isn't all that, that is obvious. My boyfriend has been to a nude strip club, had a lap dance way before he ever met me. And has his portion of porn :p I find it hard to enjoy sex, because he has seen those beautiful bodies. So I'm thinking of my belly: oops it's too bloathed, it moves, my boobs aren't perky enough, my labia are outies, etc. As one can imagine, this ruins the pleasure! Do other women have these thoughts too during sex? What do men think about none stripper/porn bodies after seeing them so much? Thanks for all imput! | |||
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Will it get better? What to do when we have a 1 year old?
| This is my first time posting but just after some advice really. We have been together for 4 years with a one year old. We are not married and have no interest in making plans ect. But we are in a committed relationship. We both bought a house last year which the 15% deposit is funded mostly from his inheritance but also some of my money. We both share a car whcih is again majority his money put into it but i sold my car too which funded it aswell. We are both young, im 22 and he is 24. So basiacally before we had our little one we werent exactly "madly in love". We were going through a rough patch because i was young and wanted to live my life yet he didnt want me doing this as he was jealous and would beg me not to go out with friends. I then accidently fell pregnant and because i wasnt interested in going out or being away from him really the problem we originally had disappeared as i was in the house almost constantly or with him. We had our baby and things were good. He sometimes didnt help out as much as i would like but he is a really good dad. The problem is that we are pretty much arguing 24/7. I think he is a good guy but i dont think im in love with him and it is sometimes difficult to get on with him. Im sure he feels the same as me as i am aware i make it hard to get on with me as i am so happy. We have sex maybe once a month if that. I long for affection and someone who i feel madly in love with. I dream about the future and about meeting someone who i can truly get on with and love and have a sex life with. Yet i dont have any desire to really have sex with him or be close with him. It hurts me because i so despretley want to love him but i find it impossible. He can be so selfish and controlling and i sometimes feel id be better off a single parent. For example i sold my car mostly due to pressure from him which was then used to put towards a car which cost 5 times my orginial car (1k to 5k ). I now never get the car and have to walk 2-3 miles on average to my uni with my son. This money could have bn spent on buying two slightly cheap cars but he wanted a flashier one. This pisses me off everyday. I know this is my fault too. i should have put my foot down. But i just hate being in a relationship with someone who can be so selfish. I want someone to put me first.. Im so confused. Do we continue living the way we are, argueing and unhappy becuase we have a baby? We have spoke about splitting up and what would happen with the house ect. He said hed move out and rent somewhere until the time came when i could sell the house. Im a year away from finishing my law degree and being a single parent would make this extremely difficult. I would have no money to even sell the house and he has all his money locked into this. I want something stable for my son. i dont want to be moving or have another man inplace of his father. I dont want to split my time with my son with his dad. I love him incredibly and it hurts that he is in this situation and sees us in such an unloving relationship i really dont know why i am even posting this or what im looking for really. But no one knows me here and no one can judge me so it feels good to get it out. | |||
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Your First Love
| Tell me about it. Who was it? Hold old were you? Are you together now? Just interested. :) | |||
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Dating a guy a foot taller than me?
| What do you think? This would never stop me from being with him, but my friends said it's a little unusual  Posted from TSR Mobile | |||
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Should i stop trying with my ex boyfriend atm??:( bit long sorry! but please??
| basically my ex bf broke up with me 3 weeks ago, with personal problems on he can sort out himself. We are friends, but i havent seen him since we went on a break which was the week before we broke up.(4 weeks ago) we was meant to see one another last weekend(sunday) but i didnt hear from his..so i thought it would be best to give him some space and i couldnt be bothered to keep seeing if he was coming out. and i didnt text him at all during the week. I went to his house wednesday to collect my stuff and also to see his mum (while ex was at uni when i went over). I then had a text from him in the afternoon saying ''Whoops, really sorry i wasnt in today :( xx'' (with a sad face) and he also asked me if i was ok. I didnt reply straight back, but i said it was ok and im fine. but I then thought i'd text him friday(yesterday) to see if he would fancy a catch up soon. and he replied back saying ''Yes pleasee x'' So today i asked if he would like to come out for a bit tonight, but he said ''sorry i can't im off to so and so's party tonight'' He then called me on the phone, he said to me he will see me next weekend as he wont be home till tomorrow at 4pm, and then he will also be out tomorrow for dinner as its mothers day, and as we have uni during the week. The thing is, he said to me on the phone that he doesnt want to go tonight as he is tired of having work all day. and that because the people he is going out with tonight are gay girls, he is off to a gay club (he hates clubs). and i said to him 'why are you going, because it isn't going to make you feel any better if you are tired' and his answer on the phone was - 'I have too' its annoyed me as he dont have to go tonight but is because he's being made to go somewhere he hates, and if he wasn't he would of come out. i know we're not together at the moment, and he can do what he likes, but since we broke up, he's gone down hill a bit and his friends he's moving in with next year, are just forcing him to do things, and i can tell he dont like it or is just doing it to please them. i want to help him but i cant :( what should i do though? as one minute he seem's to want to talk and it comes across as he missed me with all these nice texts this week. but then today when i try to arrange a day he's busy? i'm planning on just doing NC for rest of the week now? but if any of you have any other idea's please say. P.S. i am only trying to focus as being friends with him, i know some of you will say 'JUST MOVE ON' but we seem ok with each other and he talks to me and stuff. so i don't see why i should throw away a friend.. | |||
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What is Sexual Compatibility?
| OK, so I read about people stressing the need for 'sexual compatibility' in a relationship/marriage. But, forgive me, I am a bit confused about what is meant by this. Surely sexual compatibility doesn't exist in a vacuum from compatibility in the rest of the relationship? For those who don't wish to have sex with someone of the opposite sex before marriage, how on earth are they going to know how to measure sexual compatibility? Or is it that the media and society promote a kind of 'ideal' which all 'good' relationships are supposed to emulate? What does sexual compatibility mean to you? | |||
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Guy advice again
| Anon please :) Recently, I've been talking to one of my guy friends from sixth form more often and I'm not sure what to think about it... We have a lot of hobbies etc in common, text occasionally and hang out together at parties of mutual friends. He also gave me a lift to a party once and let me navigate which I understand men don't like doing :p We were going to go to the cinema together but it never happened as we're both quite busy at the moment. I think he talks to quite a few girls, but he always smiles a lot when he sees me and I'm not sure what to think! I find myself usually texting first but he always responds with a conversation. I don't know whether to keep texting first, try to re-plan the date (if it was a date) or something else... Do you think he likes me or is just being friendly? :) | |||
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Casual sex?
| I'm at uni in my second year. I've only ever had one boyfriend and that was in first year and I lost my v to him. Anyway, I have been on dates etc with other guys since but never slept with the guys. I have recently met a guy who is from USA on study abroad so is only here until June now. I met him through a show so we have that in common and share some mutual friends. Anyway, we have been chilling together for a few weeks (like once a week or something). It was only recently when he first kissed me and even then he didn't take it any further. The other night though I invited him round to mine (as I always went to his) and we got cosy watched a film and ended up having sex. I don't regret it as I enjoyed it a lot more than I have enjoyed sex with my previous boyf. But, now I thinking.. what are we? Friends still? Does having sex with him change everything? I do think from the start of meeting up with him and getting to know him, he did make it cle ar that he liked me but took his time in making a move. If I carried on seeing him what are the boundaries when it comes to sex? Would he now expect me to have sex with him whenever we meet up? I don't expect a relationship with him as he is going back home in June, but at the same time I don't want to loose respect for me and think I'm an easy way for him to get sex. I feel like deep down I don't want a casual fling because it's not really like me. But seen as I know a relationship is out of the picture, maybe I should just treat as fun? Has anyone else been in a casual relationship before? Also, he didn't just have sex with me then leave he stayed over and then left in the morning and gave me a hug and kiss and said he'll text me. I don't know how much "care" I should show him? Like should I act like I'm bothered or not? SO CONFUSED!!! any advice would be great thank you!! | |||
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Boys, what do you expect a girl to talk about with you?
| I'm a shy person already but when I'm trying to talk to a boy, it gets even worse and I don't know what to say. I'm friendly with a boy at sixth form and I love being around him, but I end up either not being able to think of something to say or garbling about some random rubbish and he's stood there a bit like  So BASICALLY, what do boys expect you to talk about with them? More so, what do boys *like* talking about? Heeeeelp! | |||
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Am I considered attractive?
| Picture link is below but I would deeply appreciate it if you read a little first. All my life I have been considered out of place. Up until I was 8 years old I attended a rough inner city school and because of my "different" appearance, was treated harshly to say the least. I thought life would get better when my family moved to an American army base in France, but I was wrong. You see, my dad is southern Italian and my mom is Scandinavian, and I inherited my dad's tanned skin and my mom's face. Because of my skin color I was treated even worse in the area of france I lived in, which was mostly inhabited by fairskinned people. Because of the treatment I became overweight and addicted to videogames and my even unhealthier mentality took a downward spiral... At age 18 I began to run and lift weights obsessively and my face began to become slimmer as I got into shape. But because of my cringeworthy childhood, I never got a myspace or facebook and I only have a total of 3 close friends. So here I am at the age of 19 in a big city of the USA, where my days are comprised of writing poetry, playing Warcraft or practicing guitar. I have zero, zilch and nada experience with the opposite sex, and I was wondering if I had any shot. I don't have a good clothing style either, but i'll hope it comes with age. Please give an informative response. I tried to give you some perspective of where my life is now. me: http://imgur.com/a/gNm02 | |||
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I am 14 next week, never had a gf since I was seven because of my culture my parents
| say concentrate on your studies, do well at school first before any relationships and stuff, and basically people laugh at me because i havent had one since i was seven i try to explain that it is not my priority but my work is and about my parents but they still laugh and call me gay, what shall i say? :/ | |||
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