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Strait man here seem to be attracted to shemales an ladyboys am I alone ?
Basically just says it all in the title so curious about this feeling I get while watching shemales in porn never been in contact With one and only ever participated in strait sex is this normal ??? 😝
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Is a wingman good for meeting girls/dating?
I've got a friend that knows quite a lot of girls & general people in general. He said he wants me to go out racing with him in a few weeks & meet some. He's pretty confident, I know as I work with him & he's good in conversation with people (including a girl colleague who I fancy). He seems to know how to act & say & gets a lot of attention from girls from when he races & just in general.
He's a decent guy & said that he'll try & make me feel more comfortable around them & help me drop into conversation with some of them (he has a girlfriend himself so I know he wouldn't try to pursue someone I was interested in). Is this a good idea, I mean I don't think I'm horrifically looking, at the start I'd be quite nervous though :o I guess I would grow in confidence if I'm hopefully not written off pretty much straight away. I'd also kinda hope he didn't get all the attention haha. Opinions please? :)
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Why is the Dexter ending so Bad?
In the end, Deb dies (WTF ?) and Dexter fakes his own death to become a damn lumberjack. Awful ending. Seasons 1-4 are best, season 7 is good too but seasons 5 and 8 SUCKED. Thoughts?
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Move on or speak to her
me and this girl I've been saying for a few months, we got sooo close, felt connections and generally felt I loved this girl, anyway we had ann argument 3 days ago which it was her fault, as she offended me by something she said and didn't care so we had an argument and blocked each other since then, anyway something like this has happened when it was MY fault and I apologized but this time I'm not, I have too much pride to message her when it was her fault; likewise she would be apologising.
But I miss her so much, and have cried because I miss her so much. Do I message her? or wait/move on? especially considering it was her who offended me
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Confused
Ok so there is this boy who is really confusing. Whenever I am in the same lesson as him, he is always coming over to talk to me to ask for help or something. Recently I have looked up and I managed to have eye contact with him where he is smiling. He is always telling people that I'm his girlfriend when I'm not. I don't know if it is because he is shy and he is just joking around with his friends so he doesn't embarrass himself. I stayed after school to do some homework and he was doing it too, we had a nice conversation because he wasn't with his friends. I don't know what to do next, do I ask him about it? I don't want to embarrass myself.
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Butt muscles
Do butt muscles grow like arm and leg muscles? Do you have to work them out like you would with your arms amd legs to get them bigger?
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toys.. what toys?
Toys… if you ask my wife of 50 years if she likes toys, she'll just smile. She doesn't like change so no matter what new toy I bring home, she goes back to her electric back massager. Works wonders and gives orgasms for her in two ways. One, quickly and two "in bunches"
She doesn't like anything inside her but me so no dildos not even if they vibrator your teeth loose. While we continue to have PIV, she has admitted that without the vibrator during PIV, we probably would have much less PIV. YOU see, she' part of the group that seldom has orgasms from PIV.
"Bob" that's what I call it) is always plugged in and lays between our pillows in the bed. I'm too old to stand on my head reaching under the bed trying to find it and ruining the moment. So we spice up sex with a threesome and "Bob" is always ready with the turn of the switch. My wife doesn't like me to refer to him as being the third in our threesome.
What is really a turn on is watching her use it before we go to PIV. she seldom does it, I guess its part of her upbringing where girls don't play with themselves.
So the next time you're in Walgreen's and you see the little ole lady picking up a "back massager" be sure to wink at her as you go by. That may be my wife if we wear out "bob"
She doesn't like anything inside her but me so no dildos not even if they vibrator your teeth loose. While we continue to have PIV, she has admitted that without the vibrator during PIV, we probably would have much less PIV. YOU see, she' part of the group that seldom has orgasms from PIV.
"Bob" that's what I call it) is always plugged in and lays between our pillows in the bed. I'm too old to stand on my head reaching under the bed trying to find it and ruining the moment. So we spice up sex with a threesome and "Bob" is always ready with the turn of the switch. My wife doesn't like me to refer to him as being the third in our threesome.
What is really a turn on is watching her use it before we go to PIV. she seldom does it, I guess its part of her upbringing where girls don't play with themselves.
So the next time you're in Walgreen's and you see the little ole lady picking up a "back massager" be sure to wink at her as you go by. That may be my wife if we wear out "bob"
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On Deciding to see other people and getting caught...
Hey everyone,
So, in this thread, I wanted to discuss 2 things. One is the fact that I've decided I want to start seeing other people. The other, well, I got caught being sneaky last night by my wife.
The whole reason I want to see other people is because my wife's been becoming a real pain to deal with, as you can see in this thread...
http://ift.tt/1e6Zdsx
In that thread, a few users, including TobyBoy, thought my wife might be having an affair. I really doubt she is, but she seems to be hiding something, mainly because she changed the PW on her phone. The other day, I found out what her PW was.
And this is the part where I get caught trying to be sneaky.
Yesterday, after we had almost packed everything to go Kayaking/paddleboarding, my wife asked me to go upstairs and get her phone. I went up and decided to check the PW to see if it was still the same (she came upstairs right after I found it last time, so I thought she may have realized I found it and changed it). I successfully got into her phone, but didn't check anything yet as she started telling me to hurry up and bring her down her phone. I started heading downstairs slowly and told her I had issues finding it. (This was my big mistake) I thought the screen would lock up before I got downstairs because she she's got it set to a one minute lock.
As soon as I handed her the phone, I realized I had been caught because her screen was still lit. She asked "Oh, haha, so you finally discovered my PW" afterwards, she began an assault of questions like "Why are you trying to find my PW so bad, don't you trust me?","Do you think I'm hiding something?" "What did you find/What were you looking for on my phone?"
I told her I didn't look for anything, which was true, but since she was saying most of this in a smiling, cute face, I couldn't help but smile when she asked me what I did on her phone. Of course she didn't believe, and insisted I told her what I was looking for, or found. I did my best to hold a serious face and told her I just put in her PW, but didn't search for anything.
Later she went on about how she and her family don't share each others' PW in her country and said she deserves some privacy.
For most of this, I felt mentally paralyzed. I didn't know what to say because I didn't want to tell her I didn't trust her. or that I thought she was hiding something. Didn't know how to respond when she made me guilty by saying "Why? you don't trust me?"
I kinda felt like the bad guy, Like I was sneaking around doing something I shouldn't and got caught.
Anyways, so here are some other things that have made me wonder.....
Ahhh Yes,
I'm not saying you're wrong. I can probably explain those, but mine are actually worse.
First, let me explain some of the above (or at least her reasons)
Stopped all physical contact. This bothers me a lot. She tells me she doesn't feel right hugging/kissing as if "everything's okay" when there are issues in our relationship.
Paying twice as much for lunch. I would assume she was just paying for a friend (as they often pay for her). I'm still bothered by the fact she got so annoyed when I asked her why she spent, though.
The other reasons you mentioned I don't really have good explanations for, aside from the fact that she seems done with our relationship. Honestly, I didn't know they were even signs of cheating.
Reason I'm concerned she's hiding something
-Changed PW on her phone, wouldn't share it with me (Previously she had a PW I knew, or NO PW on her phone) I still had the PW to her Ipad.
-Shuts down websites/apps when I approach and try to see what's on her screen. (possibly because I make it so obvious I'm trying to read her screen)
- She CHANGED her PW again. last night, after I found out what hers was.
-Seems suspicious that I'm trying to snoop. Asks why I want her phone's PW or why I'm looking at her ipad.
-Very few text threads on her phone (just me and a few coworkers). In other words, her history is very clean.
-This past week, she's been asking I'm working OT almost every day, suggests I work MORE OT on said day.. Like one day this week, she texted me asking if I was working OT. I told her until 5:30pm. She said "You should work more OT", I asked her why. She responds saying "IDK, so you can pay off your student loans or whatever"
-Sleeps in a separate room most nights nowadays, keeps her iPad/phone with her.
-In our past conversations about "Is our marriage going to work", which basically leads to "Our marriage seems like it's basically over"
she said "Maybe you'll find someone who's got more in common with you"
"Maybe we should just be separate for awhile/single again"
"Don't you want to date other women?" in reference to when
I said "I wonder what it would've been like to date other women before meeting you." sometime last year.
-She misses traveling alone, as a single person
-Her reasons for not being interested in our relationship are things that I FEEL I haven't done recently (for the most part) like going out to play games/hobbies w. friends. Seemed like things were good until the recent events on Valentines Day and her March B-day.
Reasons Why I think she wouldn't cheat/have an affair
-She never goes anywhere, except to the Gym, out to lunch w. Co-workers (AFAIK), she always comes straight home after work.
-I highly doubt she would have an affair w anyone at work, since everyone there knows she's married and she always wears her rings
-Says she doesn't want to be in a relationship w/ anyone, wants to enjoy being single
-If she got caught and her family found out, she would be mortified and eternally shamed. Filipino culture is all about having a good image amongst your peers/family. Right now, they see as their little angel.
-She has been cheated on before, and knows how bad it hurts. I think her dedication to her religion (Catholic) would also influence her decision not to cheat.
-Constantly asks if I'm going to buy a ticket to go to PH with her
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Either way, i don't want to get caught up in a episode of extreme or unwarranted Paranioa (the kind similar to what those "is he cheating on you" ads seem to want to incite.
I just want to find out what's going on.
Oh, and I almost forgot... Last night I finally got to start seeing other people (I did last weekend as well)
Basically, since I'm tired of having confrotations/being nagged by my wife, I started going out by myself.
Last weekend I went fishing and met another man and his wife. He and I had some pretty nice but brief conversations about how well he was doing and his fishing plans for the evening.
Last night, I also got to talk to a good number of other people, mostly just greeting them with friendly questions about how they were doing, what they caught, etc. Just any friendly, social, respectful, healthy conversations between two people.
I'm wondering if I should start applying the 180 and doing this more often. I just realized I need/want to interact with other people more often, especially strangers
A. Because I realized I haven't seen anyone aside from my wife family in awhile.
B. The only people I know are my wife, some old friends from 10 years ago, and my family.
So, in this thread, I wanted to discuss 2 things. One is the fact that I've decided I want to start seeing other people. The other, well, I got caught being sneaky last night by my wife.
The whole reason I want to see other people is because my wife's been becoming a real pain to deal with, as you can see in this thread...
http://ift.tt/1e6Zdsx
In that thread, a few users, including TobyBoy, thought my wife might be having an affair. I really doubt she is, but she seems to be hiding something, mainly because she changed the PW on her phone. The other day, I found out what her PW was.
And this is the part where I get caught trying to be sneaky.
Yesterday, after we had almost packed everything to go Kayaking/paddleboarding, my wife asked me to go upstairs and get her phone. I went up and decided to check the PW to see if it was still the same (she came upstairs right after I found it last time, so I thought she may have realized I found it and changed it). I successfully got into her phone, but didn't check anything yet as she started telling me to hurry up and bring her down her phone. I started heading downstairs slowly and told her I had issues finding it. (This was my big mistake) I thought the screen would lock up before I got downstairs because she she's got it set to a one minute lock.
As soon as I handed her the phone, I realized I had been caught because her screen was still lit. She asked "Oh, haha, so you finally discovered my PW" afterwards, she began an assault of questions like "Why are you trying to find my PW so bad, don't you trust me?","Do you think I'm hiding something?" "What did you find/What were you looking for on my phone?"
I told her I didn't look for anything, which was true, but since she was saying most of this in a smiling, cute face, I couldn't help but smile when she asked me what I did on her phone. Of course she didn't believe, and insisted I told her what I was looking for, or found. I did my best to hold a serious face and told her I just put in her PW, but didn't search for anything.
Later she went on about how she and her family don't share each others' PW in her country and said she deserves some privacy.
For most of this, I felt mentally paralyzed. I didn't know what to say because I didn't want to tell her I didn't trust her. or that I thought she was hiding something. Didn't know how to respond when she made me guilty by saying "Why? you don't trust me?"
I kinda felt like the bad guy, Like I was sneaking around doing something I shouldn't and got caught.
Anyways, so here are some other things that have made me wonder.....
Quote:
| Originally Posted by Tobyboy (Post 12643210) No respect for you. Stopped all physical contact. Paying twice as much for lunch. Ask you what you would do if she cheated. Demonizing you. Wants to separate to not hurt you anymore. Projecting on to you her traits. What are the red flags that you've observed JBH? |
I'm not saying you're wrong. I can probably explain those, but mine are actually worse.
First, let me explain some of the above (or at least her reasons)
Stopped all physical contact. This bothers me a lot. She tells me she doesn't feel right hugging/kissing as if "everything's okay" when there are issues in our relationship.
Paying twice as much for lunch. I would assume she was just paying for a friend (as they often pay for her). I'm still bothered by the fact she got so annoyed when I asked her why she spent, though.
The other reasons you mentioned I don't really have good explanations for, aside from the fact that she seems done with our relationship. Honestly, I didn't know they were even signs of cheating.
Reason I'm concerned she's hiding something
-Changed PW on her phone, wouldn't share it with me (Previously she had a PW I knew, or NO PW on her phone) I still had the PW to her Ipad.
-Shuts down websites/apps when I approach and try to see what's on her screen. (possibly because I make it so obvious I'm trying to read her screen)
- She CHANGED her PW again. last night, after I found out what hers was.
-Seems suspicious that I'm trying to snoop. Asks why I want her phone's PW or why I'm looking at her ipad.
-Very few text threads on her phone (just me and a few coworkers). In other words, her history is very clean.
-This past week, she's been asking I'm working OT almost every day, suggests I work MORE OT on said day.. Like one day this week, she texted me asking if I was working OT. I told her until 5:30pm. She said "You should work more OT", I asked her why. She responds saying "IDK, so you can pay off your student loans or whatever"
-Sleeps in a separate room most nights nowadays, keeps her iPad/phone with her.
-In our past conversations about "Is our marriage going to work", which basically leads to "Our marriage seems like it's basically over"
she said "Maybe you'll find someone who's got more in common with you"
"Maybe we should just be separate for awhile/single again"
"Don't you want to date other women?" in reference to when
I said "I wonder what it would've been like to date other women before meeting you." sometime last year.
-She misses traveling alone, as a single person
-Her reasons for not being interested in our relationship are things that I FEEL I haven't done recently (for the most part) like going out to play games/hobbies w. friends. Seemed like things were good until the recent events on Valentines Day and her March B-day.
Reasons Why I think she wouldn't cheat/have an affair
-She never goes anywhere, except to the Gym, out to lunch w. Co-workers (AFAIK), she always comes straight home after work.
-I highly doubt she would have an affair w anyone at work, since everyone there knows she's married and she always wears her rings
-Says she doesn't want to be in a relationship w/ anyone, wants to enjoy being single
-If she got caught and her family found out, she would be mortified and eternally shamed. Filipino culture is all about having a good image amongst your peers/family. Right now, they see as their little angel.
-She has been cheated on before, and knows how bad it hurts. I think her dedication to her religion (Catholic) would also influence her decision not to cheat.
-Constantly asks if I'm going to buy a ticket to go to PH with her
========================================
Either way, i don't want to get caught up in a episode of extreme or unwarranted Paranioa (the kind similar to what those "is he cheating on you" ads seem to want to incite.
I just want to find out what's going on.
Oh, and I almost forgot... Last night I finally got to start seeing other people (I did last weekend as well)
Basically, since I'm tired of having confrotations/being nagged by my wife, I started going out by myself.
Last weekend I went fishing and met another man and his wife. He and I had some pretty nice but brief conversations about how well he was doing and his fishing plans for the evening.
Last night, I also got to talk to a good number of other people, mostly just greeting them with friendly questions about how they were doing, what they caught, etc. Just any friendly, social, respectful, healthy conversations between two people.
I'm wondering if I should start applying the 180 and doing this more often. I just realized I need/want to interact with other people more often, especially strangers
A. Because I realized I haven't seen anyone aside from my wife family in awhile.
B. The only people I know are my wife, some old friends from 10 years ago, and my family.
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I have a really dumb question about cars
I bought (leased) a car on my own for the first time about 5 weeks ago. I still have the temporary registration sticker/paper in my back windshield, and haven't received the permanent registration/stickers in the mail yet. Is this normal? Am I missing a step of something i'm supposed to do? The temp. registration expires in July.
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Need some help...tough week!
So..long story short but dh and I have come a long way this year. He has really been putting in the effort after nearly a year of no sex due to, in brief, drinking too much and stress from his job. After separating last spring (married 18 yrs), we got back and our sex life really got back on track and I was so so very happy. So, now it's been just a 2 week dry spell and I feel like throwing in the towel. I don't understand that I'm so impatient after having a whole year wo sex that now only 2 weeks I'm like fvck this. I don't know why he isn't interested again. I tried the obvious...all dressed up and telling him I waiting for him upstairs cause I missed his hot body and then I tried the I'm just going to look so damn sexy when he gets home he won't be able to resist me a few times. He walked in and said damn...you look good...then proceeded to watch tv and go to bed. I'm feeling a bit lost as how to proceed. I want him to come to me...I don't w ant to be rejected, but he's not interested again and I'm really scared of going back to where we were before. I know I'm supposed to communicate with him about it but I just want him to want me...I don't want to have another discussion about the whole thing. That's not the right way I know but I'm just being honest. Please give me some advice...I'm not dealing well with this rejection and it's not even been that long.
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Take a break from sex to solve issues?
When we met I thought I had finally met someone with higher sex drive than me and I am borderline nympho, very HD but only when someone has my interest and I am in a committed relationship. My love language is touch and I love non sexual touch just as much, I love intimacy. This is not the only reason I married him but it was certainly nice.
Been married for a couple of years and turns out hubby can go without for like 3 weeks or so without complaining or initiating, if for whatever reason we can't he will forget about it for another 3 weeks or until I jump him. He will rarely reject me and for that I am thankful, lately I have been feeling resentful though, I see it as pity sex or like he is trying to control me or fooling me into things being ok.
Things are not ok... I see that now after getting away from him for a month (not officially separated, came to visit my mother abroad so she can spend time with our child). I am very open and honest with my thoughts and feelings with him. I have told him our marriage needs work and even mentioned separation/divorce in our conversations on the phone while here, not asked for it, but made it clear it feels like a reasonable option to consider before we end up hating each other.
Our sex life has been going on decline for a while, quality not only quantity. We don't really talk anymore, we don't do things together like go to the movies, hell, we don't even cuddle watching tv anymore. He stays up at night so he sleeps all day and I am very lonely, used to think he was being kind taking care of our baby at night(which he has done quite often since he was born) but while here our child has only asked for one bottle at night, sometimes none... So that is no longer it, he also seemed relieved when I said I wanted to go visit my mother for a few weeks.
Sorry for the long story, basically what I am asking is, would it make sense to move to the guest bedroom until we reconnect and go without? He will probably convince me easily if I stay in the bedroom... Might burst out crying and blurt out that sex is terrible at this point and hurting his feelings if that happened.
Been married for a couple of years and turns out hubby can go without for like 3 weeks or so without complaining or initiating, if for whatever reason we can't he will forget about it for another 3 weeks or until I jump him. He will rarely reject me and for that I am thankful, lately I have been feeling resentful though, I see it as pity sex or like he is trying to control me or fooling me into things being ok.
Things are not ok... I see that now after getting away from him for a month (not officially separated, came to visit my mother abroad so she can spend time with our child). I am very open and honest with my thoughts and feelings with him. I have told him our marriage needs work and even mentioned separation/divorce in our conversations on the phone while here, not asked for it, but made it clear it feels like a reasonable option to consider before we end up hating each other.
Our sex life has been going on decline for a while, quality not only quantity. We don't really talk anymore, we don't do things together like go to the movies, hell, we don't even cuddle watching tv anymore. He stays up at night so he sleeps all day and I am very lonely, used to think he was being kind taking care of our baby at night(which he has done quite often since he was born) but while here our child has only asked for one bottle at night, sometimes none... So that is no longer it, he also seemed relieved when I said I wanted to go visit my mother for a few weeks.
Sorry for the long story, basically what I am asking is, would it make sense to move to the guest bedroom until we reconnect and go without? He will probably convince me easily if I stay in the bedroom... Might burst out crying and blurt out that sex is terrible at this point and hurting his feelings if that happened.
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Wife Is Out Of Town And I'm Feeling Adventurous...
It's Friday and I'm gonna cut loose tonight after work.
Gonna upgrade the OS on my machine here at home. Yeah, I know what you're all thinkin'..."Wow, that MR dude sure is a party animal."
Yep yep...Cuz that's how I roll. :rofl:
I might even kick it up a notch and put on Season 3 of "House of Cards". :D
Gonna upgrade the OS on my machine here at home. Yeah, I know what you're all thinkin'..."Wow, that MR dude sure is a party animal."
Yep yep...Cuz that's how I roll. :rofl:
I might even kick it up a notch and put on Season 3 of "House of Cards". :D
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why take the chance
As some of you know I have been reading and posting due to a small EA affair I had with wife's friend who is crazy.
What I cannot get my head around is why people 'Invest" "trust" "believe" and really put the spouse on a pedestal.
This whole site is geared towards, marriage, cheating,separation, divorce etc... I am sure that most people understand that if 50% of marriage ends in divorce that you have a good chance that something is going to happen in your life.
While I'm not saying don't get married, but why let yourself get to a point where if the spouse cheats your so devastated...
If my wife came to me and said I want out, I have be seeing another and I want a divorce.... I would not like it, but it would not destroy me.... I'm sure I could bounce back in a couple months...
I mean hey **** happens.... she was married before me, I know she has had sex with other people... so have I.... I just cannot understand given the facts why people are not more prepared.
I hear these stories about how they felt their marriage was so great and perfect... but nothing is perfect in life... your kids, your jobs, your family... but yet you are delusional enough to think your marriage will be ?
You are going against biology.... it's a gamble ....hedge the bet no one is perfect....
What I cannot get my head around is why people 'Invest" "trust" "believe" and really put the spouse on a pedestal.
This whole site is geared towards, marriage, cheating,separation, divorce etc... I am sure that most people understand that if 50% of marriage ends in divorce that you have a good chance that something is going to happen in your life.
While I'm not saying don't get married, but why let yourself get to a point where if the spouse cheats your so devastated...
If my wife came to me and said I want out, I have be seeing another and I want a divorce.... I would not like it, but it would not destroy me.... I'm sure I could bounce back in a couple months...
I mean hey **** happens.... she was married before me, I know she has had sex with other people... so have I.... I just cannot understand given the facts why people are not more prepared.
I hear these stories about how they felt their marriage was so great and perfect... but nothing is perfect in life... your kids, your jobs, your family... but yet you are delusional enough to think your marriage will be ?
You are going against biology.... it's a gamble ....hedge the bet no one is perfect....
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Having daughters is one of the greatest joys I could imagine
Not my quote but as a father of two healthy, loving, young women, I couldn't agree more.
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