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Long time reader here on the forum, but first time poster. I always thought someone with a similar situation might post and answer my question, but see nothing like it even similar.

I've got a good wife – well, maybe not as much sex\intimacy as I'd like- but overall life is OK. What keeps coming back into my mind is a scenario from about 10 years ago with an old girlfriend. This particular act had never happened before or after my 2 year encounter with her.

Sharon (the girlfriend) and I had a great, active sex life. Our not being together now is certainly not sexually related. Unfortunately, job related travel kept us frequently apart. But any night we were together, enthusiastic (from both parties) sex was a given. What happened in the mornings as we awakened is the memory I keep returning to and wondering if this is very common.

We usually slept in the spooning position, with me behind. When the alarm went off to wake us, neither of us would say a word. In fact, if anything was said, the mood was broken. What she desired was for me to enter her roughly while in that spooning position. No foreplay. Just put the typical morning erect PIV - in one hard lunge- to the max, then pound away completely without any concern for her pleasure. If I was not forceful enough, she would push her pelvis back to increase it. At my climax, she sometimes would say something like "Oh, baby, fill me up!" or "Put it in there". She had no interest in an orgasm for herself, just wanted it fast and hard from me. She would then silently go get her shower, and then come back to kiss me Good Morning. We would then dress, and would typically leave for work.

Before someone comments she was simply accommodating my desires, it wasn't. If I was slow to awaken, she would wiggle her rear against me to signal her desire. If I didn't awaken with the erection ready, she was visibly disappointed.

What she did tell me about these episodes was while at work, she liked to sit at her desk and feel the results of our morning play. She liked the reminder coming from the soreness of the rough act, and the dampness seeping from her. I do know she fixated on the semen, due to her showing me sometimes at lunch dates of our wetness still there. Said it was important to her knowing part of me was still inside of her being carried around all day. No, she wasn't wanting to fall pregnant. A pregnancy would have been disastrous for the both of us, especially her and her career.

My question for our esteemed group here is whether this is very common, or had I discovered the unicorn and was too dumb to know it? Should I look back on this time in my life as just a one-in-a-million event, or is this something more women like than I know of?

I've been with my fair share of women, and Sharon is the only one like this I've found. It was a great wake up call, Sure wish I could train the wife into this, but it's not even a consideration. LOL

Thanks for your responses and thoughts!

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OK ladies, help me figure out what to do with this girl

Jeez, I know I am going to get flamed for as many posts this week...:rolleyes:

OK, a quicky, met girl at local small town club. We all know each other but I don't know her. I hang with her brother and done work with her dad.... Ridiculous.... She is smoking hot but I see more than that. There is a great personality and family traits here, not to mention the catholic deal.

Anyway, hit club last week, she introduces herself and is ALL over me. Granted her bday and a little tipsy but seems to remember most of it. She is holding my hand, kissing on me, grabbing my ass, etc. Not subtle. There is something here she liked

FF to this week, we have been talking via text. She sort of tapers off to nothing and I call her on it. She admits that there is another guy she has been talking to for a month and wants to see where it "might lead". I told her straight up I won't be a plan B and my decision making is far from 21 and stupid. She said she it does not take her long to see if something is there. All this time, she said she does not want to talk to two guys at once.

I told her earlier today I was going to call or stop in and she got a little testy. I admitted I had some rather strong feelings but did not exactly apologize. In short, my game face went on when I heard about other dude.

Well, this was probably 50 texts ago. Remember, she does not want to talk..... So I decided to ask her tonight, "what is your type?"..... I get the "tall/dark/handsome". She then goes into the family, loyal, etc. But also handsome. I get the feeling she is still hooked on superficial..... We have thrown countless play texts but she asks my height so I tell her 6ft. The whole time I am wondering, am I for sale? But really, I think she is comparing me to other people or something...????:scratchhead:

After she dropped the whole "tall/dark/handsome" deal, I pretty much excommunicated with a short "huh". She replied after a bit with more emotional stuff that was "more important" but I would question that.

Now, let me get one thing CLEAR, I do think she is more than an airhead deva but I am not real sure she could really get away from her ideals. I am NOT a 10, I am normal height at 6ft, and I am not really tan, actually freckles and a little tan. I have NO problem bumping superficial broads straight to the curb!! Been able to see through their BS for years.

I honestly think this one is used to getting what she wants. She is a little intrigued with my resistance but I honestly could care less. If she found me hot on some night that I had my stuff working just right, that is 1% of the time. I think she has gotten what she wants and got REALLY hurt when a modelish dude bailed on her when she was pregger.

What I find interesting is she keeps firing over texts. I figured she would bail on the texting but I say "see ha", she fires something else over. I think it is obvious she has some feeling here that mostly lies in the fact that my personality wins every single time. I know that. I can sell it all day but most are so sold on the cliche "type" that they write me off. I told her I will not be her plan B. That seemed to get to her. Keep in mind here, I am trying to decide if I should even fight for her anyway. I do NOT need a superficial broad that needs arm candy. I thought she was over it with her recent problems but I maybe not.

So.... Could someone like this actually love a 6ft, lighter skinned, reddish hair guy? Or does that even matter because she is still caught up in superficial BS? I kind of hope she does contact so I can put her on ignore for a while and tell her I am too busy....Truth be told, of we go on a date, we are going to discuss "types" and she will find out what i think of superficial women. I thoroughly enjoy walking on them.

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Who cheats more ?

Ladies help me out. I did a little research on this using the search feature but I want to know who do you think cheats more, men or women. It is said that statistically men cheat more being the natural aggressors. Once you vote in this poll, please share any pertinent links in your comments. Thank you ladies in advance.

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What does it mean when girls tell me "i have ruined her for other men"?

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can anyone explain this youth talk, i dont really follow

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Drinking Age..... 18 or 21?

Recently a friend who teaches Composition at the college level gave her students an assignment to write an argumentative piece against or in favor of, lowering the drinking age back to 18.To no surprise, around 90% were in favor of it. I just wondered what folks on TAM thought about it. Maybe 19? 20?

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Problems in a 6 year old marriage

Hi, I am a 30 year old woman living with my husband and our 2 year old son. I love my family very much and I know my husband does too. I don't see us divorcing at all. However, there are a lot of issues between us that need to be sorted badly. I am unhappy to a certain level in our marriage. Firstly, I am a very bossy and dominating woman. My husband on te other hand is quite submissive. Although this might seem ideal, I crave for a man who dominates me, someone who initiates sex and someone who will lead the way. However, I understand that this is not possibly easily because of my extremely dominating nature. I get angry very easily when things don't go my way and yell and insult my husband and his parents sometimes too. I have given up my career (100% happy with the decision) and now I stay at home with my son. My husband and I have talks about this problem often and whenever I say that he should be a bit more manly, he defends himself by saying that I am a man and that I am very bossy and need to calm down a bit. I feel like it is a cycle. I find it hard to be submissive when I know that he can't deal with situations, for example, if our cable TV gets messed up and if he calls the cable guys, they will only get here next week while if I call them I can get them to come here tomorrow. I hope I am making sense. I really want him to man up. Even in sexual matters, I am the one always making the first move and he often jokes that I drag him to bed when he is working (seems to enjoy it) when inside my heart, I would rather be dragged especially because I know he thinks I rule. We recently had a talk where he said that he was completely done with my nasty behavior. Any advice would be appreciated.

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First dance

I went to the Union Summer Social tonight. I was asked to dance by a woman I never met. I said "yes." I had mixed mixed emotions. I felt afraid, ashamed, and that the only way I could cover that up is by talking and asking questions. I was unsure of where to put my hands, how close to be with her, and even if I wanted to dance with anyone. After the song ended, I felt relieved and unsure of what to do next. I found a "safe" person to hang with. He was hanging with another couple and I felt like I did not fit in with that. This "safe person" said twice that I have to reciprocate and ask that same woman to dance. I got scared and made an excuse to leave. Now I feel ashamed for leaving and not asking her to dance with me. Mixed emotions. Does my emotions have any connection with the divorce? I know D and I are done. I think a hang up I have is whether or not dancing with her would lead to anything else. Another hang up is what others at work mi ght say. I was also thinking that I did not want to be up late since I am tired and helping a friend move tomorrow. But, maybe that is just an excuse to not deal with my feelings at the time.

I guess I can say that I danced with someone even if I fell apart with that. I learned I still have many hangups about connecting with another woman.

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True Happiness.

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I need a woman's touch and sex to truly be happy.

Do you?

The question is also to girl's concerning guy's.



Discuss. :)

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Have any of you dealt with a partner with a chronic health problem?

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I consider myself to be a relatively good looking guy, albeit a little shy to start with when I meet new people. However within the last couple of years I have been diagnosed with a chronic condition known as fibromyalgia, which essentially manifests itself as chronic pain, sleep problems, cognitive difficulties, parasthesias and more. Thankfully mine is mild compared to others, although I can get flare ups which can put me in a depressed mood, or make me agitated. My question is have any of you had to deal with a partner who had a chronic medical condition, be it mental or physical? I'm concerned I may be alone for a long time as a result of this, or should I get a partner, I will become a burden on them on the days when I'm feeling particularly terrible. Any insight would be much appreciated.

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Should I tell muslim girlfriend I'm not a muslim

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Notes to make before post

*Please don't tell me that muslims aren't allowed to date etc I know that. Whatever you think, the fact is it is quite common now.

*We've been together for two years.

*I love her very dearly and would love to be with her long term/marry her.

*I was born a muslim and have considered myself one right up until just before this ramadan.

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Okay, so I've been with my girlfriend for a few years now - we've always planned to get married. However just before ramadan I came across the books called the god delusion, god is not great. + the massive resource of videos on youtube on atheism. And though I have always been skeptic it finally came to me that i had to accept that islam simply isn't true. This led me to not fast through ramadan...which i had to lie to my family about (dangerous to tell them) and I had to lie to my girlfriend.

The reason why I had to lie to my girlfriend is because I know that she would end it with me, simply because she truly believes. which is fair enough because she is doing what is beneficial for her in terms of what she believes is best for her afterlife. I did try to bring up a discussion as to why pork is haram etc and she became really flustered. And asked me why I'm thinking/asking about this kind've stuff..then she joked and said "are you an atheist?" I said "no" very quickly but then asked "what if I was?" and she replied that "it would mess everything up".

Soooo now I'm stuck and entirely messed up in my head...I don't know what to do and I guess I just wanted some opinions as to what you guys would do if you truly loved someone and you were in the position knowing that if they knew you no longer believed in god that the relationship couldn't go ahead...

please help, very confused.

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I feel disgusted and guilty

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This might be the wrong forum but I need to be on anon. This is embarrassing.
I've been trying to give up porn and masturbation because I used to do that quite a lot. I managed to give up for a few months and during my giving up period I felt withdrawal symptoms. I was craving to go on porn and use that to facilitate my masturbation for so long. I was feeling restless, angry, moody. I was even feeling insomnia. I felt that I needed to masturbate to get to sleep. I controlled this by locking my phone and laptop in another room to prevent me from watching porn.
After around 3 months I couldn't take it any longer. I was alone in my room and a girl I find really attractive in Uni uploaded a picture of her self in a mini skirt. I couldn't resist it. I got an erection and then I started to masturbate. When I was doing it I was thinking I don't want to go all the way, but then after a few seconds it happened. I felt the biggest sensation I'd ever felt and so much came out. Probably five times more than normal. I had to clean my laptop afterwards.
Well now I feel really guilty about myself for giving in to myself. I failed my challenge and I was doing so well. Is there any escape from this? Ever since I gave in I've been doing it again once every couple of days. I feel like a drug addict that keeps giving in. I want an escape. I want that Nirvana.
I don't want anyone to respond telling me to masturbate because I get the choice whether I want to or not. I have personal reasons for why I want to give up completely and would prefer not to reveal them. The purpose of this thread is for anyone willing to give me help to help, not a debate whether masturbation is right or wrong. I don't care if other people are masturbating. Do it all you like as long as it doesn't affect me.
Sorry for this thread but I need to post it. I feel evil and depressed now by the way.

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Would you marry her knowing that she has had multiple boyfriends?

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I realise that everyone makes mistakes, things always don't work out, everyone matures etc. But, personally, I just can't imagine how I'd settle with a girl knowing that she has had multiple bfs. And will always remember her first time with another guy etc.

Adverts like this:
http://ift.tt/1zHpDqd
Just makes you question it more.

Is this what society wants? Multiple intimate relationships, one night stands.
Why can't that moment just be between two people for the rest of their lives?

Or is that too much to ask, unfair and unrealistic in times like today?

Also those who say yes:
Would you then be alright with her being in contact with them? E.g. FB friend

Note: For girls reading the thread everything would be vice versa. (Would you marry him knowing that he has had multiple girlfriends?

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Why Do Chicks Think It's Appropriate To Text Back 6 Hours Later?

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Like I know you seen the message. I know you're not busy. It's not cute, I know you don't want to seem eager but this is taking it too far. You're doing it all wrong.

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Ending a relationship

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Hi all,
I broke up with my boyfriend on Monday in person and it was very difficult as he sobbed and sobbed. He's such a lovely person but I just didn't feel the same way about him as he did about me. This might sound dramatic but I just cannot get the image of his tear stained face and quivering lip out of my head and it's making me feel awful.

Any advice would be much appreciated


Regards,

Alice.

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Went out with a guy, kissed him goodbye... on the cheek... he looked strange...?!

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Dear TSR. I feel I have committed a cardinal dating sin of some sort... Long story short I'm a girl who went out to eat with a guy who asked me out a week ago. We'd been texting for a while, so him asking me was a step I'm glad he took. He dropped me home and we had an awkward "I enjoyed myself" blah blah moment. It went on for around 2 mins, felt like an eternity but in a good way. Like we were both soaking up how much we'd enjoyed ourselves. Difficult to explain. Anyway, he was smiling... Almost as though he was expecting something. I thought he'd make a move but he didn't and it was really dragging on. Not that I didn't want to sit in the car with him, I just felt like something should have been done at that point. So I said something funny as I opened the door, then leaned over and gave him a kiss on the cheek.

THE LOOK ON HIS FACE. It was like he was taken aback. But not in an angry/disappointed WTF way. More of a "u wot" way. I can't explain it. He knows I'm reserved so there's no way he'd expected me to start sucking him off or anything. I felt horrified that I'd done it. I'm not a girl who goes out a lot with guys and this was my first proper date. Did I do something wrong? Should I have kissed him on the lips? Was the cheek thing juvenile? It just seemed fitting... Ugh. He has texted me since but he didn't mention it. Should I? I want to garner a range of views. Boys and girls. Thanks guys.

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