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| Keep getting "internal server error" messages when trying to enter the forum. Using Windows 7 and Firefox. First began in the Mirror Mirror pictures thread (page 25) and continuing sporadically now. My browser is set to clear cookies and history automatically upon closing, so I doubt it is coming from my end. | |||
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| I am obsessed with my ex but he no longer loves me. I can't see past him, he made me laugh, he made me happy, we were amazing in bed, we had so many great memories but now he is making another girl happy and taking her out for meals and buying her gifts while I am here in so much misery and pain, I hate her and I hate him, I want him back so much but he is lying in bed with her tonight, how can I get over him? | |||
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| I have sexual partner who is a real neanderthal, sexist, alpha male and aggressive "LAD" type, and occasionally we have sex as he likes submissive girls. I thought outside of the sex he was really my friend and we both knew that him "using" me as sexual object was just a bit of roleplay that took place because we both enjoyed it and I consented. However one week ago he came round to my halls straight from football, he was mad because he lost, I told him to get a shower first before we did anything, but he insisted "I'd loved it" and continued to assert his "dominance" until I gave in, I was in the mood at the time so I obliged. But now he has taken me accepting this behaviour once to thinking he can treat me like an object and some kind of 50's housewife, for instance harmless stuff like slapping my behind in front of his friends to "show off"  . However the behaviour went from this slightly disrespectful stuff to something more scary, he tried to insert his fingers in my jeans at dinner in front of his friends, he said that it was because "we were playing footsie", and the last time I saw him I gave him oral and he held my head down whilst he ejaculated which he knows I don't like. Is this against the law? Or is this just "normal lad" behaviour? | |||
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| I have been reading hundreds of posts on this site and it's the same story over and over, which makes me wonder about our true motives as the BS and the message we send by staying with our WS. Doesn't R tell the WS that they can get away with anything since the BS is willing to give their all to fix the M even after suffering the worst betrayal? We even go as far as "rewarding" them with HB sex when they should be the last person we'd want to be intimate with. To me it seems that we all know deep down that we deserve to be loved without having to do all this hard work. Today, I feel that R is essentially us begging our WS to love us like they once did, because we desperately want to feel safe again, loved again, even if it's a tainted kind of love from the same person who betrayed and hurt us. Are we willing to put up with what we have always thought as the ULTIMATE dealbreaker in a marriage simply out of fear of being alone? Isn't it pathetic that WS can and have found love elsewhere, while we can't bring ourselves to believe that we too can move on from 15 years of M and find a truly loving person who is NOT a cheater? Our WS have hurt us to the core then most of the time stayed with us for reasons that have little to do with real love. This is especially true for cake eaters. They'd lose too much in a divorce, so they stay and do their best to R. But what do we win out of R? The illusion of happiness with "the devil we know"? I am so lost. | |||
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| I was at the online toy store and saw hundreds of different kinds of rings. Someone needs to explain these to me and I figured this was the best place to go. Do they really help? Do they give more pleasure to guy? Some of them look pretty strange, but then again some look really sexy. I'd love to see my H wearing?? one! Why do some have more than one ring? Is,it supposed to be something you would use at each session or is it just another tool in the bedroom? Thanks in advance. | |||
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| Please keep anon. I was Facebook stalking a girl I knew (just, because I was bored)and I saw my ex come up as a mutual friend. Now normally, I learnt to kind of ignore it but it now seems that she has changed her profile picture, don't know why that matters I think that's just what caught my eye, but after seeing her little "thumbnail" I went all weird and hot inside. It's been well over 7 months now since we broke up and recently I felt that my mind has been off everything and I thought I was over her. As I struggled getting over my ex if I saw something that would remind me of her or I saw a post on Facebook or something, then I would spend ages just thinking about her and wanting to contact her and speak to her and stuff. Now that I just saw this, I don't necessarily want to contact her as I think I've kind of hate her now, but like my heart stopped and I went all hot inside and I got a weird feeling in my stomach. What is this and why did it happen? Is it going to hinder me getting over her? I'm really worried that I'm going to think about her loads again and not get over her properly. I thought I was over her and I had forgotten (kind of about her). Why do I feel like this? | |||
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| I'm 16, at sixth form. Never really talked much to girls in the past. When I went to secondary school I was new (like everyone else) and didn't know anyone. I made a mistake not talking to anyone out of my school. (boys only) During this time, all the other guys in my school took the oppotunity to talk make friends from the girls part of the school. (located nearby) The sixth form is still the same school. Its been so many years on now. I regret my mistake. I have hardly talked to any of the girls at the girls school. Most of them seem quite stuck up and don't or probably won't have a interest in talking to me, since they made their own friends since the start of secondary school. I mean, I have them on Facebook and stuff, but never spoken to them before. I'm wondering how I can get to know more girls from other places? Where can I get to know more people? It seems so late already, almost every person I know have their own group of friends already, over the last few years, and it doesn't seem like they make new friends now. I just feel a bit lonely. Normal teenagers text their friends and talk, all I ever text my friends for is, what the homework was etc. I just wish I could settle in and have friends (of the opposite sex) and be able to talk to. What can I do? Thanks. | |||
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| Anon or delete. There is this girl at work (in a hospital) that I like. I started work last October and saw her then but we work in different areas and rarely see each other than the occasional time we are on the same ward or pass the corridor. This whole time I have tried to chat with her and get to know her but haven't been able to due to lack of confidence and lack of time I get to do so. I feel during the first month she definitely showed a liking towards me, but that could be her character as she seems outgoing and friendly. My problem is, I want to ask for her number or even to hang out, but I feel due to the lack of being around her long enough to have conversations (maybe had a couple short ones) and only occasionally greeting each other in the corridor, I think that even though we have known each other since October, we don't know each other that well and so asking would seem odd. Also, I have no confidence to do so whatsoever as I fear (stupidly) rejection. I know there are plenty of these sorts of threads and I am sure the typical answer would be "get confidence and ask" but it doesn't seem that easy and as I said, when could I ask if we barely have time to talk. I don't wanna walk past her in the hallway and stop her and ask. | |||
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| I ****ed up bad, yesterday I gave into temptation and did something bad on Skype with another guy.. now I'm dumped. He wants to cut off all contact and I don't know what to do. Back in June I was cheated on my him, twice, and lied to for two weeks yet I forgave him and moved on, yet he dumps me cos I flashed my dick on cam for 5 seconds. Sure it wasn't right and I'm an idiot, I realised soon after how stupid it was. I really love him and I don't want it to be over because of this silly little mistake. inb4 ifyoutrulylovedhimyouwouldn'thav edoneit. F off. | |||
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| So i have this guy friend (i'm female) who i've been friends with for years. We were out clubbing and i was getting with this other guy, but then he did something and i left him and went back to my friends. I told my guy friend what happened and my guy friend answered with "come back to mine later" I was kind of surprised at the response he gave... like where did it come from? Opinions please? | |||
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| Last year I fell incredibly hard for this guy. It took me by surprise especially because I was so heart broken by another guy. Anyway, this guy was everything, like he would make my heart beat fast, make me smile, happy, fulfilled and the sexual tension was incredible. It was strong because it was forbidden. He is Muslim, me Christian. He never once told me he likes me, yet he was wanted me to love and speak highly of him like I do my father. But he was ashamed of me. I got that impression from one time when we was arguing and he insisted we go for a walk yet didn't want anyone to see us. I converted to Islam, not entirely because of him. But he would allow me to touch him, he would come over to spend time, buy me things. My counsellor said it was another way for him to get a convert to Islam. :-( but a part of me feels like it was much more because I still long for him. I miss him. I genuinely think I might have loved this guy. But am I being delusional? Posted from TSR Mobile | |||
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| It's my first year at University I've made a few friends but no girl friends (I'm a guy btw) living at home. How can I start making more friends (both guys and girls) Any tips? | |||
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| There is a girl who I think is a great girl and could easily see myself spending the rest of my life with here although, we both discussed going out and said we wanted to explore more options and not settle straight away, although I don't want to risk loosing her to somebody else and miss a great opportunity. Any ideas or suggestions? | |||
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