My wife believes I have become like her dad recently and very angry and moody. We have had lots of life going on (serious illness, family serious illness, wife serious illness, job loss, family death..need I go on?) Life has been a fight the last few years.
I do not always agree with her. The latest happened when I was very frustrated with one aspect of my life. I actually kind of need her for support. So she called me yesterday and was trying to help me deal with this issue. I appreciated it very much but I was so frustrated at that point, nothing she could say would help me. I was just in a really bad rut. So she told me I should look at this situation in a different light, and I said no that still won't help it...then I was so frustrated with the situation, not her, and tired with life..that I couldn't think of anything to say..I just sat there on the phone..silence..she as well. That went on for prob 15-20 seconds.
She then said something else and we moved on. We hung up. We talked about something else later in the day briefly that came up on her end.
I then picked her up that evening and she was emotionally upset. She said she had been crying and why did I have to take things out on her. I had no idea what she was talking about.
Apparently it was my excessive pregnant pause. She took that as being somehow mad at her and again mentioned how I was just like her dad. Why did I have to take things out on her. I tried to explain that I actually needed her yesterday, and I did appreciate her calling. I was just at my ends wit about this situation, and I couldn't be moved along at the time no matter what she said.
But that I was not mad at her. The pause was just that..I was simply so exasperated with the situation, I could not say anything else. I was spent. But not mad at her whatsoever.
She disagreed with this and reminded me about my mood and anger lately.
Am I missing something? I really thought I was just showing my emotions and was so caught up in this situation..but not mad at my wife. She has depression, although is doing very well now. In the past I have held things away from her thinking she could not handle them. She wants me to share everything now. So in this case, I did...but it got me "in trouble". Did I do wrong?
I do not always agree with her. The latest happened when I was very frustrated with one aspect of my life. I actually kind of need her for support. So she called me yesterday and was trying to help me deal with this issue. I appreciated it very much but I was so frustrated at that point, nothing she could say would help me. I was just in a really bad rut. So she told me I should look at this situation in a different light, and I said no that still won't help it...then I was so frustrated with the situation, not her, and tired with life..that I couldn't think of anything to say..I just sat there on the phone..silence..she as well. That went on for prob 15-20 seconds.
She then said something else and we moved on. We hung up. We talked about something else later in the day briefly that came up on her end.
I then picked her up that evening and she was emotionally upset. She said she had been crying and why did I have to take things out on her. I had no idea what she was talking about.
Apparently it was my excessive pregnant pause. She took that as being somehow mad at her and again mentioned how I was just like her dad. Why did I have to take things out on her. I tried to explain that I actually needed her yesterday, and I did appreciate her calling. I was just at my ends wit about this situation, and I couldn't be moved along at the time no matter what she said.
But that I was not mad at her. The pause was just that..I was simply so exasperated with the situation, I could not say anything else. I was spent. But not mad at her whatsoever.
She disagreed with this and reminded me about my mood and anger lately.
Am I missing something? I really thought I was just showing my emotions and was so caught up in this situation..but not mad at my wife. She has depression, although is doing very well now. In the past I have held things away from her thinking she could not handle them. She wants me to share everything now. So in this case, I did...but it got me "in trouble". Did I do wrong?
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