Basic Questions: 1) In reading a lot of the threads I was a little surprised to see the length of separation before reconciliation for those who trying the big R. Is there any evidence that supports a certain term - I've seen 1yr quite a bit, 3yrs more than I expected and 4yrs in one post which was quite surprising? Also, why so long and is doing the big R in less than a year unrealistic and why?
Specific Questions: 2) Not sure how to assess the following behaviors from my wife who initiated the separation 6 weeks ago: A) wanted to have a trial separation agreement that pinned down finances and custody/visitation - says she wrote it 2 weeks ago, have requested to see it several times, won't send it to me? B) Decided she would tell her family during a trip to visit them this month, told me a few days ago she doesn't want to now - 'her mind is not made up about anything yet' and doesn't want to stress them out at this point? C) I came up with an apartment for me/house for her plan we both thought was good, now doesn't want to live separate? D) Is still cold to me when we talk 75% of the time despite A-B-C?:confused:
All insights, suggestions, etc. welcome, thank you!
Specific Questions: 2) Not sure how to assess the following behaviors from my wife who initiated the separation 6 weeks ago: A) wanted to have a trial separation agreement that pinned down finances and custody/visitation - says she wrote it 2 weeks ago, have requested to see it several times, won't send it to me? B) Decided she would tell her family during a trip to visit them this month, told me a few days ago she doesn't want to now - 'her mind is not made up about anything yet' and doesn't want to stress them out at this point? C) I came up with an apartment for me/house for her plan we both thought was good, now doesn't want to live separate? D) Is still cold to me when we talk 75% of the time despite A-B-C?:confused:
All insights, suggestions, etc. welcome, thank you!
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