Convincing spouse to get marriage counseling?

Dh and I have been married 11 years and have 3 kids. We've had a series of very stressful events in the past couple months. As a result, some long-simmering problems are coming to the surface, and adding to the stress. I have been in therapy by myself before, and I just started up again. I've suggested that dh and I try couples therapy, but he is adamantly against it. I've asked him to read a few pages of Seven Principles for making Marriage Work, but he refuses. Basically he sees all problems as 100% my fault, and it's my responsibility.

I am not in a position to leave him, and I'm not to the point of wanting to leave, so I'm not able to say, "go to counseling with me or I'm moving out."

So my question is, how could I convince him that counseling could help? And if I can't, how much couples work is possible if I'm in therapy by myself? Should I explain to a therapist that I want to do couples therapy by myself?

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