I thought about this after reading another post, here. Why do people feel the need to talk to their partners about their sexual past?
Before you answer, hear me out; I know some will argue that you can learn a lot about a person from their sexual past. I hate to say it but there's just no truth to that. If that's what it takes for you to feel like you understand someone's character then you're just not very observant.
It seems to be common practice in a relationship but it's SUCH a sadomasochistic behavior. There are no right answers to these questions. No matter what you say, even if it's 100% honest, your So will eventually find a way to feel ****ty about it. Besides that, some people change over time. A good-two-shoes virgin might one day decide to go on a sexual rampage. A person who slept around may have tired of it and is capable/willing to be a loyal partner. There's no sure way to evaluate this.
Does anyone see it that way? I often feel like I'm along in thinking that discussion is a dumb idea and adds nothing positive to a relationship.
Before you answer, hear me out; I know some will argue that you can learn a lot about a person from their sexual past. I hate to say it but there's just no truth to that. If that's what it takes for you to feel like you understand someone's character then you're just not very observant.
It seems to be common practice in a relationship but it's SUCH a sadomasochistic behavior. There are no right answers to these questions. No matter what you say, even if it's 100% honest, your So will eventually find a way to feel ****ty about it. Besides that, some people change over time. A good-two-shoes virgin might one day decide to go on a sexual rampage. A person who slept around may have tired of it and is capable/willing to be a loyal partner. There's no sure way to evaluate this.
Does anyone see it that way? I often feel like I'm along in thinking that discussion is a dumb idea and adds nothing positive to a relationship.
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