Is it unwise to vent about my partner to my family and friends who interact frequently with my partner? because they are biased towards me and are starting to / already have a negative view of my partner.
In addition, my immediate family, may also have 'psychological blind spots' to the way they view certain issues since we share a similar family upbringing and/or they raised me. These psychological blind spots easily turn them into sympathetic supporters to my 'views'. Which may make me feel like I'm in the 'right', even though I really share partial blame in any conflicts or disagreements. Those I talk to (family & friends) only hear my side of the story, which could also be biased with my own perception or 'filter' when I relay it to them.
My partner says its unfair and unhealthy for the relationship, because they only hear one side of the story and do not have a track record of providing evidence based or clinical based advice. They just share their opinions and give their unvalidated advice, which may also be biased from their own life experiences, baggage, prejudices, etc... Often times, their advice is in the form of support of my views, instead of finding out what the real deeper issues are that me and my partner might have.
I'm starting to understand what my partner is eluding to as I see the way my family and friends are starting to treat him/her and how this negatively affects our relationship (between my partner and I).
I use non-gender terms, because I want readers and espondents to be able to look at this from a non-gender issue. i.e., words like him, her, wife, husband are not used.
Please vote in the poll and respond with a written response. Thank you in advance for all your feedback :smthumbup:
In addition, my immediate family, may also have 'psychological blind spots' to the way they view certain issues since we share a similar family upbringing and/or they raised me. These psychological blind spots easily turn them into sympathetic supporters to my 'views'. Which may make me feel like I'm in the 'right', even though I really share partial blame in any conflicts or disagreements. Those I talk to (family & friends) only hear my side of the story, which could also be biased with my own perception or 'filter' when I relay it to them.
My partner says its unfair and unhealthy for the relationship, because they only hear one side of the story and do not have a track record of providing evidence based or clinical based advice. They just share their opinions and give their unvalidated advice, which may also be biased from their own life experiences, baggage, prejudices, etc... Often times, their advice is in the form of support of my views, instead of finding out what the real deeper issues are that me and my partner might have.
I'm starting to understand what my partner is eluding to as I see the way my family and friends are starting to treat him/her and how this negatively affects our relationship (between my partner and I).
I use non-gender terms, because I want readers and espondents to be able to look at this from a non-gender issue. i.e., words like him, her, wife, husband are not used.
Please vote in the poll and respond with a written response. Thank you in advance for all your feedback :smthumbup:
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