I see people saying this all the time here on TAM. Mostly women. The odd guy I guess, but pretty much all women.
I do not get this. I see women post about living in horrible conditions - their husband verbally abusing them daily, cheating on them and flaunting it, refusing to allow them their own money, and much worse.
Is saying "I don't have the means to leave" the same thing as saying "I'm a victim of abuse and I need help to leave"? Are there really this many women out there who have what amounts to battered person syndrome? I really hope not. But I don't like the alternative either - that too many women today are no more independent than they were 150 years ago and that they depend on a MAN to provide them with the necessities of life. That they're simply unable to fathom the idea of being on their own and providing for themselves, to the point that they live in abject misery for years. Or that they're just too lazy to do it, or too uneducated.
I do not know the answer, but I do know that it really bothers me when someone posts on here for YEARS about their horrible husband, yet just continues to take it and never does anything to change it. Hell, it bothers me when someone just posts on here for a couple of DAYS about the way their husband has treated them for years or decades. Does it bother you?
I do not get this. I see women post about living in horrible conditions - their husband verbally abusing them daily, cheating on them and flaunting it, refusing to allow them their own money, and much worse.
Is saying "I don't have the means to leave" the same thing as saying "I'm a victim of abuse and I need help to leave"? Are there really this many women out there who have what amounts to battered person syndrome? I really hope not. But I don't like the alternative either - that too many women today are no more independent than they were 150 years ago and that they depend on a MAN to provide them with the necessities of life. That they're simply unable to fathom the idea of being on their own and providing for themselves, to the point that they live in abject misery for years. Or that they're just too lazy to do it, or too uneducated.
I do not know the answer, but I do know that it really bothers me when someone posts on here for YEARS about their horrible husband, yet just continues to take it and never does anything to change it. Hell, it bothers me when someone just posts on here for a couple of DAYS about the way their husband has treated them for years or decades. Does it bother you?
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