Just need some advice as to how to handle a situation here, that has happened several times to me. I'm a guy. And it's usually supposed to be guys that make the first move and "chase" the girl, right? That's what normally happens, girls won't show any interest in me unless I show some interest in them first.
Now sometimes, if I find a girl attractive, I might express it. I might compliment her appearance, or buy her a coffee, or some other minor thing. It's not really a "first move" as such. I just think that she might like it if someone tells her she's pretty, or it might be nice to chat for a bit. And I suppose if she responds well, it's reassuring that she's not running a mile thinking I'm some hideous pervert. But I'm not asking her out on an official date, or suggesting that she be my girlfriend, or taking her home to sleep with. I don't want a relationship, or sex, or for it to "go anywhere". Surely I'm right in thinking that none of what I've done is overly suggestive, so far?
But keeps happening is, they become really persistent and don't leave me alone from then on. And I don't want to just be rude and say "go away", but then why are they acting as though I've made some big commitment to them? Just because we sat down and had a drink for 10 minutes doesn't mean she should call me every evening thinking I want to talk to her for hours, and then getting huffy when I say I'm a bit busy, or can't think of anything to talk about. Nor does it mean I'm not allowed to be friendly with other girls in front of her.
I don't know, am I doing something wrong here? And what's the best way to express, without being rude or mean, that I find all this persistence, and their assuming that I want to keep talking to them and seeing all the time a little over the top? I mean all I meant to say was "You look pretty" or "You seem nice", not "Please be my girlfriend"...
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