I don't think there's any poll functionality, here, so I'll just tally up the responses. But I am more looking for an explanation of the books than just a recommendation.
I am in a sexless marriage, but I love my wife. She may not love me, though. We have two kids in elementary school. I'm not sure I can make it to graduation without changes. I want to grow old with her.
We make good money, but my wife constantly worries about money. She finds the more (by outward appearances) successful neighbors to compare ourselves to. She thinks I've managed my career poorly, owing to being laid off three separate times. She also works, but doesn't want to. If I made more, she wouldn't have to, she thinks/says.
She's frustrated that I don't do more around the house. When I do things, (in my mind) she tells me I am doing them wrong, certainly tells me how she thinks I should do them, so I end up doing even less. She tells me to make decisions, and when I do, she wants to adjust them to what she things is right. Which leads to me asking why she wanted me to make the decision if she's going to tell me it's wrong.
She has many legitimate complaints. So do I. We each also have many illegitimate complaints, and decades long resentments.
I'm not big into the whole self-help thing, but I've gotta' try something. I'm not a religious guy, so anything that leans toward God or spirituality probably won't work for me. If I like it and it makes sense to me, I may ask her to read it. Which book and why?
Married Man Sex Life Primer
No More Mr Nice Guy
His Needs, Her Needs
5 Love Languages
LoveBusters
Other
I am in a sexless marriage, but I love my wife. She may not love me, though. We have two kids in elementary school. I'm not sure I can make it to graduation without changes. I want to grow old with her.
We make good money, but my wife constantly worries about money. She finds the more (by outward appearances) successful neighbors to compare ourselves to. She thinks I've managed my career poorly, owing to being laid off three separate times. She also works, but doesn't want to. If I made more, she wouldn't have to, she thinks/says.
She's frustrated that I don't do more around the house. When I do things, (in my mind) she tells me I am doing them wrong, certainly tells me how she thinks I should do them, so I end up doing even less. She tells me to make decisions, and when I do, she wants to adjust them to what she things is right. Which leads to me asking why she wanted me to make the decision if she's going to tell me it's wrong.
She has many legitimate complaints. So do I. We each also have many illegitimate complaints, and decades long resentments.
I'm not big into the whole self-help thing, but I've gotta' try something. I'm not a religious guy, so anything that leans toward God or spirituality probably won't work for me. If I like it and it makes sense to me, I may ask her to read it. Which book and why?
Married Man Sex Life Primer
No More Mr Nice Guy
His Needs, Her Needs
5 Love Languages
LoveBusters
Other
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