Now, the title says it all. As I have mentioned in my earlier post I'm so grateful for choosing D, even though I don't think R was even a possibility.
I have to ask you fellow posters, how do you feel? Are you happy you did not take the R road? And why?
I see too many reconciliation threads where people are having a hard time dealing with it 4-5, even 20 years later. Where they are questioning themselves and their WS's.
I'm not trying to tell anyone to take either route. To each it's own. We are all different.
But knowing what I know now, cheating is a deal-breaker (as well as three A's) and why waste the rest of your life questioning your choices and your spouse. Having triggers, TT, questioning their every move, always being on the lookout...
I'll take he two years of suffering VS the lifetime. Just my $0.02.
Disclaimer:
My apology to posters who chose the R option. I do realize that some of you have better marriage/relationship than before the A. Maybe just my small brain can not comprehend what it takes to get the trust back, erase the mind movies and accept they made a "mistake".
I have to ask you fellow posters, how do you feel? Are you happy you did not take the R road? And why?
I see too many reconciliation threads where people are having a hard time dealing with it 4-5, even 20 years later. Where they are questioning themselves and their WS's.
I'm not trying to tell anyone to take either route. To each it's own. We are all different.
But knowing what I know now, cheating is a deal-breaker (as well as three A's) and why waste the rest of your life questioning your choices and your spouse. Having triggers, TT, questioning their every move, always being on the lookout...
I'll take he two years of suffering VS the lifetime. Just my $0.02.
Disclaimer:
My apology to posters who chose the R option. I do realize that some of you have better marriage/relationship than before the A. Maybe just my small brain can not comprehend what it takes to get the trust back, erase the mind movies and accept they made a "mistake".
Put the internet to work for you.
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