adviced would be much appreciated-aggressive behaviour

I have been married for a little over a year. My husband is a loving caring man he would do anything for me and always tells me how much he loves me. However sometimes he loses his temper and he can be quite scary. He finds it hard to communicate what he thinks and feels and when I push it he can lose it quite severely. I am not by any means blaming him for our arguments I am an argumentative person and most of the time it is my fault. Hes usually a very calm loving guy but sometimes when he loses control its like that man is gone. He has never hit me, but during those times he had knocked over bedside tables, punched walls, has punched and broken doors, he has pushed me, pinned me down, got into my face and has come at me aggressively backing me into a wall. These aggressive states only last a minute then instantly he is sorry, hugs and kisses me, says he would never hurt me, that he lost it and it wont happen again. I dont think he ever would hurt me a nd I know he doesnt mean to scare me and hates that he does. For once last night I tried not to be argumentative in a row and he still lost control. he has promised to seek help for his behaviour but so far hasnt.
He is the most timed guy you would ever meet with everyone else which makes me think I bring this out in him. I know I can be a pain in the ass and im quite articulate in an argument I think maybe his inabilitity to express himself makes him frustrated but im not a psychiatrist so I dont know.
Basically I just wanted to know what people thought about this, am I over reacting?

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