Hi all
I've had a few serious relationships in my time. Most of them (actually, all of them) have started with a drunken encounter in a club or something. But I started dating someone back in October without drink getting involved (wow!), just like grownups do. It was going really well - we had about six dates or so. Then it ended - she said that she didn't feel it was working quite right.
I was confused. Turns out that the error on my part was that I had not actually made any physical contact. Aside from a goodbye kiss, there was no handholding, no making out, no nothing. The reason was not because I didn't want to do all that stuff, it's just that there seemed no place to do it. We mainly went out and did stuff on our dates, and ate meals. I just couldn't see an opportune time to start kissing her. I didn't want to do it in the middle of the street, and didn't want to invite her back to mine - I thought she might get the impression that all I was after was sex.
Now, I'm going on another date next week with the same girl, after a few months apart. How do I go about initiating this physical stage, without the mad idea of getting wildly drunk? Do I invite her back to mine? Will she get the wrong end of the stick?
I've had a few serious relationships in my time. Most of them (actually, all of them) have started with a drunken encounter in a club or something. But I started dating someone back in October without drink getting involved (wow!), just like grownups do. It was going really well - we had about six dates or so. Then it ended - she said that she didn't feel it was working quite right.
I was confused. Turns out that the error on my part was that I had not actually made any physical contact. Aside from a goodbye kiss, there was no handholding, no making out, no nothing. The reason was not because I didn't want to do all that stuff, it's just that there seemed no place to do it. We mainly went out and did stuff on our dates, and ate meals. I just couldn't see an opportune time to start kissing her. I didn't want to do it in the middle of the street, and didn't want to invite her back to mine - I thought she might get the impression that all I was after was sex.
Now, I'm going on another date next week with the same girl, after a few months apart. How do I go about initiating this physical stage, without the mad idea of getting wildly drunk? Do I invite her back to mine? Will she get the wrong end of the stick?
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