Have been dating boyfriend 6 months. He's introduced me to all his coworkers & friends, and he's met my family (his family is abroad & he almost never sees them).
I asked about living together. He said "I come from a background where I was taught you should be married before living together. None of my buddies moved in with their wives before marriage." Then he admitted "I love having sex with you, but sometimes I even feel religious guilt about THAT." He said not living together has nothing to do with how he feels about me. At one point he took my hand & said "I know you're worried because you feel like not living together means this isn't going anywhere ever. But you have nothing to worry about, I promise. I am 100% committed to you, I think things are not just good between us, but really great. Everything will happen for us exactly as it's supposed to when the time is right." He also said recently, "I've never felt for anyone in my life the way I feel about you."
He had a serious girlfriend (3 years in college) & told me they broke up bc "she was pushing to get married right then, & we argued about it." I told him, "In a few years if we are still living separately, I'm not going to continue with this, if you don't want more of a commitment." He said, "no, several years Is a Perfectly reasonable timeline to talka bout marriage. I definitely do want marriage and kids someday, just not on a Pressured timetable, but when it feels right."
I said "I just don't want to waste my time." He keeps insisting I have "nothing to worry about."
I asked about living together. He said "I come from a background where I was taught you should be married before living together. None of my buddies moved in with their wives before marriage." Then he admitted "I love having sex with you, but sometimes I even feel religious guilt about THAT." He said not living together has nothing to do with how he feels about me. At one point he took my hand & said "I know you're worried because you feel like not living together means this isn't going anywhere ever. But you have nothing to worry about, I promise. I am 100% committed to you, I think things are not just good between us, but really great. Everything will happen for us exactly as it's supposed to when the time is right." He also said recently, "I've never felt for anyone in my life the way I feel about you."
He had a serious girlfriend (3 years in college) & told me they broke up bc "she was pushing to get married right then, & we argued about it." I told him, "In a few years if we are still living separately, I'm not going to continue with this, if you don't want more of a commitment." He said, "no, several years Is a Perfectly reasonable timeline to talka bout marriage. I definitely do want marriage and kids someday, just not on a Pressured timetable, but when it feels right."
I said "I just don't want to waste my time." He keeps insisting I have "nothing to worry about."
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