I should say that I wish I had found this forum when I first discovered my husband's secret life! I have posted that we are in reconciliation and things are much better. He has only admitted to what I actually found and says that I bring us back to the beginning every time I ask questions. So, I am hoping that someone can help me see what is truth and what is fiction.
I will start with what I have learned you call DDay. I had gone to lunch with a friend for her birthday and stopped back at my husbands office to use the restroom. He is a lawyer and I am his secretary-so there are only two of us in the office. As I unlocked the outer door, I heard a loud crash from his office. Thinking that I had startled him-I walked down the hall saying it's just me. As I reached for his door he threw his weight against it and wouldn't let me open it. I could hear him buckling his pants and asked what he was doing. He said he was looking to see if he had testicular cancer-really creative-especially since the lights were off. I kept trying to open the door and started crying realizing that someone was in there. He never budged. I really did have to use the restroom so left the hall for a minute. By the time I came out he had the door open. By this point someone could have left or have been hidden. I left sobbing without checking. About an hour later he ema iled me that he had been masturbating to porn and was embarrassed and didn't want me to see. I think letting me think there was someone in there was actually worse-but he doesn't agree. So, was it that simple or was he Skypeing with someone or was someone in there?
The women: Mia: a secretary at the courthouse he had been doing free child custody work for at least 10 years. The woman I immediately thought was behind the door. He also coached her daughter in soccer and I had noticed him checking out her figure before. She had also just given him a $300 gift certificate for Christmas. She used to just give him a new coffee cup. She made a big deal about giving him the gift certificate in front of me. Someone else confirmed that everyone thought he had a crush on her. When I told him I thought she was the one in his office-he wanted to know why. When I reminded him about the gift certificate-he finally confessed that he gave her the cash to buy it so that I wouldn't complain about him spending so much money on himself at Christmas. I had already spent more on gifts for him. Of course the biggest pain I felt from this revelation was that they were so close that they could lie to my face and put on a big show about the gift. I kept hearing him say you shouldn't have over and over. After several days of arguing I asked him to stop doing free legal work for her. He showed me an email he sent her. I kept asking how did she respond-he said she never did. During all of the arguing he kept offering me his phone. I finally looked at it that night to see if she had responded. I found an additional email he had sent her telling her to disregard the one he showed me. I also found out about the second woman.
Mary: an old college girlfriend he had reconnected with on Facebook. The first email I found asked her to get ready for a romantic lusty sexual adventure. I could not believe after all of the swearing on the bible that he was only guilty of porn-here was an e,ail to meet someone at 5:45 on 1/4/13. I woke him up and we argued for at least 24 hours-still lots of denials even with emails saying he wished he had married her and that he was thinking of going to see her. He claimed it was only emails. More later.
I will start with what I have learned you call DDay. I had gone to lunch with a friend for her birthday and stopped back at my husbands office to use the restroom. He is a lawyer and I am his secretary-so there are only two of us in the office. As I unlocked the outer door, I heard a loud crash from his office. Thinking that I had startled him-I walked down the hall saying it's just me. As I reached for his door he threw his weight against it and wouldn't let me open it. I could hear him buckling his pants and asked what he was doing. He said he was looking to see if he had testicular cancer-really creative-especially since the lights were off. I kept trying to open the door and started crying realizing that someone was in there. He never budged. I really did have to use the restroom so left the hall for a minute. By the time I came out he had the door open. By this point someone could have left or have been hidden. I left sobbing without checking. About an hour later he ema iled me that he had been masturbating to porn and was embarrassed and didn't want me to see. I think letting me think there was someone in there was actually worse-but he doesn't agree. So, was it that simple or was he Skypeing with someone or was someone in there?
The women: Mia: a secretary at the courthouse he had been doing free child custody work for at least 10 years. The woman I immediately thought was behind the door. He also coached her daughter in soccer and I had noticed him checking out her figure before. She had also just given him a $300 gift certificate for Christmas. She used to just give him a new coffee cup. She made a big deal about giving him the gift certificate in front of me. Someone else confirmed that everyone thought he had a crush on her. When I told him I thought she was the one in his office-he wanted to know why. When I reminded him about the gift certificate-he finally confessed that he gave her the cash to buy it so that I wouldn't complain about him spending so much money on himself at Christmas. I had already spent more on gifts for him. Of course the biggest pain I felt from this revelation was that they were so close that they could lie to my face and put on a big show about the gift. I kept hearing him say you shouldn't have over and over. After several days of arguing I asked him to stop doing free legal work for her. He showed me an email he sent her. I kept asking how did she respond-he said she never did. During all of the arguing he kept offering me his phone. I finally looked at it that night to see if she had responded. I found an additional email he had sent her telling her to disregard the one he showed me. I also found out about the second woman.
Mary: an old college girlfriend he had reconnected with on Facebook. The first email I found asked her to get ready for a romantic lusty sexual adventure. I could not believe after all of the swearing on the bible that he was only guilty of porn-here was an e,ail to meet someone at 5:45 on 1/4/13. I woke him up and we argued for at least 24 hours-still lots of denials even with emails saying he wished he had married her and that he was thinking of going to see her. He claimed it was only emails. More later.
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