| Hey! I'm new here, just would like to introduce myself with this thread. Anyways, I was in a relationship for almost a year and everything seemed to be going on perfectly. We had no fights, just small arguments. She would talk about the future with me, always would tell me how good looking I was and how she loves me - I thought she was into me more than I was into her. Eventually she ended up having feelings for my best friend and I broke up with her as a result, this was about a month ago... I'm still so confused. Inevitably we became bored of each other, this was because we would hangout nearly everyday just to have sex and lay around watching TV, though we did go out every so often but a lack of money made it hard to have fun all the time. I found myself often leaving early and make up excuses to find time for myself, it seemed that she always wanted to hangout whenever she was able to. My emotions with her have been off and on during the course of our relationship. I would often consider breaking up but I care for her and could never do it because a couple weeks later I will be infatuated yet again and I find her very attractive and fun to be around. I noticed she was giving my friend a lot of attention all of a sudden. He told me that she seems to be coming on to him, but I thought little of it because I was convinced she loved me. She lied to me and told me she had homework and was going to sleep but I found out she really just was watching a movie and went shopping with my best friend. So, I confronted her and she denied it (obviously). We went camping, my best friend came a long, and I noticed again her attention was on him and would be around him more often than me during the trip. I found out from her friend that she said she has feelings for him, but loves me. I understand that what she means is she cares for me, and the feelings are no longer there. It's terrible, but I know that is just reality. So, I broke up with her. We talked for a bit, she kept saying she still loves me and that she's confused. She's going to school that's practically on the other side of the world in a few months, so I can understand why she doesn't know her feelings. We both agreed to be friends, but I made it clear that it is going to be awkward because she played me for my best friend (Which she thinks is not the case). She asked me to consider going to grad with her "at least as a friend" (which i didn't). She's friends with my friends, so I still have to see her every once in a bit which brings my feelings for her back up and makes me feel like shit that I am no longer with her. She also texts me once in a bit to ask how I was and would start small talk with me which I respond back with one sentence or word replies. The way I see it is the break up was going to happen regardless, she is going to school in a couple months for longer than we've been dating. I just want to see her as one of my friends because she's a good person and treated me well in the time we've been together, but it kills me to know she has these feelings for someone other than me (especially my friend at that). All honesty, I really wanted to work things out with her. My plan is to move forward but a part of me really wants her to want me back as much as I want her back. Too bad it's in her ball-park and it wouldn't matter anyways. Any advice? Thanks guys! Also, my best friend is not interested in her. | |||
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