Point of no return - and why men don't understand it

About two months ago, I stopped communicating with my husband about our children. I tried for over a year to get him to see that our daughter's diagnosis of ADD was real, that she needed help, and that we needed counseling. He basically stonewalled all attempts to get our daughter any help. So I finally just cut him out of the equation. I set up appointments to help our daughter even though he wasn't on board. I just didn't ask or tell him what I was doing. I didn't ask but rather told my husband that I was going to enroll our daughter in a private school where the teaching methods are better for kids with attention issues. Our daughter will have to take 1st grade again, unfortunately, because we waited a whole year to get her any help. SO..... I ask my husband last night if we can agree to separate and divorce amicably, for the sake of our children and our future financial situation. His response was to demand that I confirm that he was indeed doing some of what I asked in terms of parenting. I agreed that yes, he was. But we have been fighting and disagreeing and battling over parenting for many many years. It is only in the last two months, when I have stopped communicating with him, stopped including him in decisions, stopped even letting him know what is going on with our kids, that he all of a sudden changes. That, and he knows that I am divorcing him. What I just don't understand is why he thinks that a month or two of some change by him makes up for the years of turmoil and damage done? Why does he think I would just say, "Oh, my mistake! Everything is good now" after so many years. And don't you know that he took my lack of communication with him as a good sign, like I was happy with him? He didn't see it that I had checked out, that I was done with him? Why is that? He is just in denial?

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