| Okay, so we are getting married in 3 months... but there is a lot to work on. WE have been dating for over 4 years and I have been through a hell of a lot with her. She is 25. Discovered this year she has PTSD, bipolar, PCOS, bicorneate uterus, GERD, and maybe slight sleep apnea. Her hormones according to her have been crazy since we met almost 5 years ago. Rapid mood cycling, rapid weight gain (60 pounds since we got together. 30 of that in the year), chin hair growth, pelvic pain, and almost daily nausea. Doctors have her on AD medication, steroids, and others... she is taking approximately 4 or 5 pills every morning. We went to the doctor 2 months ago and when asked what she does for physical activity she said not much, and she barely eats, and when she does eat it is not healthy foods and eats a lot at once. The doctor told her she needs to lose weight and to exercise and eat more green vegetables or her conditions at such a young age will only get worse and that she needs to take advantage of her age while she can since she is still young. My fiance replies with "How am I supposed to get motivated to exercise when I am always tired and have hip pain?" The doctor said she wants to see us again in 3 months and up until then she needs to try her hardest to push through the pain and the feelings of being tired because its in her own best interest. She always complains about pelvic pain, about nausea, waking up at night, snoring, always sleepy and tired. We have gone on walks, and gone to the gym but she never sticks with anything. I go to the gym myself (b/c I work in a gym) at least twice a week regularly and attempting to go 3 times a week now. She is off all week during the day after 1pm and either goes home and sleeps, or cleans the house some which I do the majority of on the weekends when she is gone. I try to take on more responsibilities like cleaning, laundry, cooking so that she would not have a excuse to not work on her health. But there is always always always a excuse. When we first started dating I worked out 4-5 times at the gym per week and she went about twice a week. And going through the last 4 years trying to figure out what is physically wrong with her and causing her pain and nausea has been tough. Especially her mental stuff like the PTSD and depression. I don't feel like the same person I used to be, and even under doctor's orders she won't put the necessary effort forward. I go out of my way to cook healthy foods like chicken, and make salads and healthy soups, but I look on our bank account and when she is at work she would rather buy fast food and then come home with the food I prepared and say she didn't have time to take a break. I really am reaching the end of my patience. When I commented a week ago about all this and how frustrated her choices are to me, she just called me shallow and told me that I am supposed to love her no matter how heavy she is, and I told her that it's about your health... it's not me talking anymor e... it's the doctors. We spent hundreds of dollars trying to figure out what is wrong with her, and exercise and a healthy diet are doctor's orders for the treatment of her PCOS which in turn would help her moods, decrease her sleep apnea, and be in less pain. Even the doctor said that there is nothing to suggest that the hip pain is from anything other than carrying excess weight. She is 25 years old, 210 pounds at 5' 1." My dad is over 400 pounds and I have had to watch himself eat himself to death my whole life, and no my fiance is doing the same thing. I try so hard for her to have the opportunity to improve her situation, but she doesn't care. I don't know what to do anymore. She keeps bringing up how she wants to lose weight for the wedding, but now she just wants the dress altered because it's too tight. I'm completely lost and have no idea what to do. There aren't any more pills she can take to help her health, but it's almost as if she is just waiting for a quick fix or something but 4 years on now... there isn't one. | |||
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