| Hey y'all, I am looking for your opinions on my situation because hubby and I disagree so strongly that I can't tell who's right anymore. I love writing and recently made the decision to save a lot of money in a job I hated, then take a 40% pay cut, and work just 3 days a week so that I could enjoy my "true passion" more. Our household expenses/ vacations/ everything shared are still split exactly 50/50--I don't spend a dime of his money, and I saved a ton of money so that I could make this transition to a more relaxed, happier lifestyle. The issue now is, he thinks that all my free time should be spent on responsibilities we used to share 50/50, such as cleaning, grocery shopping, dishes, laundry, etc. This would make complete sense to me if he was "funding" this transition I made, but he is not (except he added me to his health insurance for $45 extra a month--which I reimburse him!) He is resentful because I have more free time, and I am resentful because I saved and saved and saved (and now count every penny I spend) and yet I am not enjoying my hobby--which was the whole point of me making this transition! I know he's tired at the end of the day--I used to be, too--but that's why I made this change! And he is 100% welcome to put effort into making the same change if he wants to. Thanks so much for reading my post and for any wisdom y'all might have to share!! (PS: we both used to earn the exact same salary, and now I make 40% less, but I spend 40% less too. No more new clothes or expensive girls' nights out--that sort of thing). | |||
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