| We've been having problems for about 4-6 months. If you ask him its been going on for years. About November, he started a second, part-time job. THAT'S when it started. I know now its because he started an EA with a coworker there. In March, on his days off, he suddenly decides he wants to take our son out for a father/son day. Says he doesn't know where he's going but he's leaving me and daughter home. I say OK -- even though its weird. He goes outside, gets his bowling bag and leaves. Two weeks later, an acquaintance mentions seeing him out bowling with a woman and her three kids. He doesn't want to speak with her. I ask him. He says, Oh, I knew the lady in the lane next to us. She's married to someone I know. Oh. OK. Fast forward a week. His phone spazzes. He refuses to hand it to me to fix. Its weird. He reluctantly hands it to me just as he gets a text from a woman. I ask who she is. She's a friend. He won't elaborate. I later learn is who he took my son bowling with. In the next week and a half, he buys a new car without my knowledge. Takes both my kids to her house for dinner and refuses to talk about it. I tell him its not cool and I dont want her around my kids. A week ago, the OW blocks me on Facebook. (I can see when he comments on her stuff and I'm curious). I ask him. He says she doesn't appreciate being cyberstalked by me. I asked when on earth I ever cyberstalked this woman. He says the day I asked my son to confirm she was the woman he went bowling with. You mean when I pulled up a picture, asked my son if this was her, he said yes and we went about our day. Seems like stalking. A week ago, he says he wants a divorce. Two days ago, he packed a bag and left. He still denies cheating on me. She's just a friend. I pulled cell phone records yesterday. He has over 2,500 text messages to this woman in one billing cycle. For awhile now, he takes his phone EVERYWHERE with him. He even takes it to the shower. He changed his email and password on Facebook. On his Friday nights, he leaves when the kids go to bed to go to his male friends house, but he doesn't come home until 3, 4, 5 am. He STILL denies cheating on me. Am I crazy? He told the kids he is moving out and not coming back. According to him we are getting divorced this summer. My kids are devastated. I feel blindsided, betrayed, worthless and angry. I'm reading up on 180 and detachment and looking for books to help. I'm just so lost right now. I guess I just needed to vent. | |||
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