| Hi All, Hope someone can give me a advise. I was here in this site last year going through the same thing. My boyfriend and I have been together for more then 20yrs. High school sweethearts. We have two kids boy 15 girl 4. Through out the years it feels like I was the only one in the relationship. He was very possessive at first. Extremely jeaoulus. I distant myself from friends, I did not have a social life. I was the provider, he always had a min. wage job or not work at all. I have supported him on anything he wanted to do. Through out the years he will go out stay out late. Cheated, girl numbers found several times. We stayed together this long because we loved each other. Last year he was hired to be a dentist assistant I know is not the greatest career but please take in to consideration that to him it was a big step, after working as a warehouse clerk, security jobs that paid min. wage. . He started messing up going out so of course I will kick him out the house. Well one day he decided that it was best for him to leave that he knew he was messing up and that he would leave to come back a better men. He left me with the rent due, bills and he went with his parents on vacation to visit his family in his born country. When he came back from his trip he came crying home saying he loved us and that he missed us that he wanted his family. I let him in. Through out the days nothing changed. Him going out acting like he did not care about us. A month after this our apartment caught on fire and we lost EVERYTHING.. I was devestated.. I was forced to move in with my parents and him with his parents. We lived apart for a month. We would see each other everyday. We got our new place and moved in together. I thought this was going to be our new start.. Things were ok until this past three weeks.. He started again with his attitude messing up going out. Hanging around with his single brother. Well this weekend he said he was going somewhere that he would come back. We werent really talking to each other since he was always mad. He never came. Morning came nothing. So i txt him not to ever come back. So now this is what I cant understand. he says he left because we were arguing alot and that he did not want this for his kids. (he would cause all the arguing) He was not coming home to sleep. etc. Well his plan is this. He says he loves me and that he would always love me. He wants to stay apart but see me and the kids. He says he is going to change. It is hard to believe he wants to change. He did not need to leave our home to change. I begged him to go to church with me to go to counseling he never did. He left me with the bills and rent again. He wants to act like we are dating but have no responsibility. Am I wrong? He did not had to leave our home to show us how much he loved us and he was willing to change. I am going crazy not knowing what to do.. I am tired of hurting he keeps pulling me in. I told him we could talk but strictly about the kids. He calls me constantly. I dont pick up. He txt me I txt him to.. He made me tell him that i loved him and i did not want anyone else. He told me he better not find out i am doing stupid things. I just cant understand what he wants. | |||
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