My relationship seems to be ending

I came home from uni this monday for a few days, and the first thing I did was go up to my boyfriends. It was going fine, but I was feeling super tired so I asked if I could go and have a lay down for a bit. He said sure and came up with me. I napped for a bit and woke up, rolled over and noticed he was crying. Naturally I was concerned. I asked him what was wrong and suddenly this absolute tsunami of emotions just came rolling out of him. Just so much stuff, and some of it was really quite hurtful. He said 1. He's not sure if he loves me like he should any more. He says we shall always be friends but he's not sure if he loves me as a girlfriend any more. 2. He's not sure we want the same from life. He sees a family in his future, me, I've never been sure. I'm 3 1/2 years younger than him, so I've not even finished uni yet, whereas he has done a masters, attempted to write for 2 years and is now doing work experience to apply for a PGCE starting 2014. So I think it's fair to say he is more expected to have a more solid life plan than me. But I'm making efforts. One of the main reasons I've never been sure of kids is because of my vomit phobia. I'm currently in therapy to help with that after realising it's affecting my future more and more, but I probably wouldn't have been spurred to do that if he hadn't said how much children were part of his future. This seems to be the big main issue for him. He's suddenly realised he's 25 and is getting closer and closer to 'settling down' but also is still young, and seems to think that maybe he should be having fun. He didn't actually say that, but he seemed to strongly infer it by saying he felt trapped between two worlds - the world of the at uni 20-somethings who go out partying, and the just turned 30's who are starting families and have life plans. 3. He says he isn't coping with the distance. I work a 12 hours per week, along with my uni commitments, which aren't much as I'm doing a BA so my contact hours are minimal. He knew when we got together 2 1/2 years ago that I was going to uni after my gap year. I only go to uni an hour away (by train) from where he lives, and I make as much effort as I can to come and see him but obviously, work and uni often butt in. He works nearly every night in a job at the theatre as a front of house usher and if he doesn't go in for a shift, he doesn't get paid. What with train fares being so expensive, and neither of us finding out what we're doing one week to the next until really soon before due to the rotas at work it means seeing each other can be sporadic. If he takes a shift off to come and see me for only one night, that's £25 he's lost, and the train fares will often cost £25 themselves, never mind the stuff we do when we're together. I can't help but be annoyed at him for just dumping this stuff on me just before exams. He says he loves me, and I still love him dearly, and would be 100% behind our relationship if he hadn't mentioned this. But whilst he says al this I can't stand being left in this bizarre limbo where he might just phone me one day like 'I've talked to some people. I don't think we should be in a relationship any more. But I still love you like a friend!'. I don't even know if he wants me to keep being 'girlfriendy' around him. But that's not to say I want him to end it now. I really love him, truly, and the thought of breaking up with him breaks my heart. I've been talking to my Dad about it and he thinks I should be selfish and just say 'Look, grow up, get a proper job, and don't be a knob and dump all this emotional crap on me before exams' but my Dad has never liked him, so I have to take his advice with a pinch of salt. But part of me wonders if he's right. I struggle enough with procrastination without being distracted by my emotions. Then I'm struggling with guilt. I've had emotional wobbles like this before, but they have always been a bit more that I'm tired/stressed and get overly emotional, worrying that I don't love him as much as he deserves because I don't miss him all the time. The next morning I always wake up, apologise profusely and it's fine. But this seems so much bigger, and I'm trying to be normal, but it's little things. Like when I say 'I love you' he doesn't respond with 'I love you too' any more, and he doesn't want to seem to hold hands, and... I just don't know. I want to be there for him through any troubles he's having, but I don't seem to be able to help him with this one. I'm too young and too unsure myself. So what should I do?

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