Do you let guys pay for your date? Guys, do you offer?

I really dislike guys paying for me on dates. It actually makes me a bit uncomfortable when they say things like "Get whatever you want, it's on me". I mean, I'll let friends buy me a drink if they are getting a round or whatever because I know that I'll buy the next round and we keep it fair. And I'll happily buy drink for friends and my sister. Just when it's a date, I hate it. I think what added to my discomfort with it was a much loved and respected teacher of mine once compared it to solicitation (the man is on some level, paying for the woman and therefore paying for the woman herself). Obviously this is not what normal guys are thinking when they offer to pay but it sticks in my graw, you know? Now I know that it's in the guy guidelines to offer to pay but when I respond "No no no, we'll split, I don't like people paying for me" and I casually say that it's one of my "policies" and laugh, why do you have to then insist and then try and sneakily pay for it? It just feels like they don't respect my opinion. I'm not being coy about it! Do you let the other person pay? Do you offer to pay yourself? If you like to split or pay for your own, how do you go about it when faced with someone who wants to pay? P.S. I have a well-paying full-time job whereas the guys I go out with are at uni and have loans and everything like most of my friends. I feel worse because we both know I have more disposable income and yet he'll spending his money on me and it's not necessary.

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