So my fiance brought up an issue. She hates HATES video games. I've always been a gamer. Not so much over the last few years, but I do enjoy playing a couple times a week (if I'm lucky). Each time I play its for 1-3 hours. Last week I logged roughly 1 hour into my game. The week before that? Maybe 3 or 4 hours for the entire week. I wouldn't say I receive flak for playing, but she definitely doesn't love that I DO enjoy gaming. When we first started dating, she knew I was a somewhat gamer. She always hated it when I played. So, I have limited my game time.
This morning she brought up a post thread on a baby forum to which she follows. The thread was about this poster was tired of her husbands gaming addiction. She points out that gaming doesn't belong in relationships and even destroys them. All the posters on that forum, save for a few, agree that their husbands/fiance should toss out their hobby of video games when they get into a relationship.
I felt that she sided with all the posters on the site and showed me the thread because she wanted to hint at the fact that video games are inappropriate in any relationship unless both couples enjoy the activity.
I feel differently. I get to rarely play games. And when I do, its 3-4 hours a week, at most. She watches her TV shows. She sits on her cell phone for HOURS EACH AND EVERY DAY! And yet I'm the one that's out of bounds with what I do as a hobby? I work a job, I pay ALL the household expenses. I deserve to have a hobby. I stopped complaining to her about her excessive cell phone usage while we are together. I have to be in acceptance of this "hobby"? Fine. Allow me to enjoy MY hobby.
This morning she brought up a post thread on a baby forum to which she follows. The thread was about this poster was tired of her husbands gaming addiction. She points out that gaming doesn't belong in relationships and even destroys them. All the posters on that forum, save for a few, agree that their husbands/fiance should toss out their hobby of video games when they get into a relationship.
I felt that she sided with all the posters on the site and showed me the thread because she wanted to hint at the fact that video games are inappropriate in any relationship unless both couples enjoy the activity.
I feel differently. I get to rarely play games. And when I do, its 3-4 hours a week, at most. She watches her TV shows. She sits on her cell phone for HOURS EACH AND EVERY DAY! And yet I'm the one that's out of bounds with what I do as a hobby? I work a job, I pay ALL the household expenses. I deserve to have a hobby. I stopped complaining to her about her excessive cell phone usage while we are together. I have to be in acceptance of this "hobby"? Fine. Allow me to enjoy MY hobby.
Put the internet to work for you.
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