:frown2:I don't know what to do anymore but don't want to be in limbo and miserable anymore.
We sold our house and bought another one almost 6 hours away. I was to quit my job and find one closer to the new house. Unfortunately, my husband lost his job January of last year, the month before I was to quit my current job.
I now live at a friend's place, work at the same city where we sold our home and pay all the bills for the new house until he finds a new job and we can pay off the big bills so I can afford to quit and find a job in the city where we moved to.
Three months later he had all his teeth removed and got dentures. He had really bad and crooked teeth and was tired of dealing with them. He asked me about having it done and I flat out told him I had no problem with it so long as he wore them. His mother never wears her's and I find that absolutely disgusting. He knows this also.
He does not wear them. I cannot kiss him on the mouth as it turns my stomach to stick my tongue in a toothless mouth! I also don't like to watch him gum food to death or talk without his teeth. He says they are uncomfortable and won't stay in. I tell him he needs to go back to the dentist and get them refitted. He says I don't understand as I still have all my teeth. We had a huge fight about it in August last year.
It is now almost 18 months later and he still does not have a job and still does not wear his teeth. He is also still insisting that I take care of everything like I did when he was out of country because "he doesn't want to be bothered with it."
I had to drive over there one weekend to take one of our dogs to the vet to get her shots, rear dew claws removed and spayed because he wouldn't take her. I told him to take her back the following Monday to have her bandages checked. He took her back during the vets lunch hour and couldn't be bothered to wait for the vet to return in less than an hour. Needless to say, when he took the dog back on Wednesday, the vet insisted on keeping the dog for a week and a half because the dog had messed up the dew claw removal wounds so badly and he wouldn't keep her from jumping and running. It cost another $350 for the vet stay.
I also had to bring our other dog back to our old city because she was depressed because he wouldn't walk her anymore so she would just pee where she was at and not move.
This is my third marriage. The first two lasted less than 3 years. I still love this man deeply but don't know what to do. He won't listen when I tell him straight he needs to find a job even if it is minimum wage and he needs to go back to the dentist to get his dentures fitted properly so he can wear them. I don't know what to do. I don't want to give up on my marriage just because he is unemployed and toothless but I also don't want to be the one who has to deal with everything, the only one that works and then have to deal with his toothlessness.
I realize I am not as attractive as I used to be as I now weigh 200lbs instead of 160lbs. I have started walking our other dog in the morning and evening and paying much more attention to what and how much I eat trying to lose the extra weight. I have been trying to stay busy with friends (female only) so I am not worrying about this situation so much but now I don't just don't know what to do. Please help.:crying:
We sold our house and bought another one almost 6 hours away. I was to quit my job and find one closer to the new house. Unfortunately, my husband lost his job January of last year, the month before I was to quit my current job.
I now live at a friend's place, work at the same city where we sold our home and pay all the bills for the new house until he finds a new job and we can pay off the big bills so I can afford to quit and find a job in the city where we moved to.
Three months later he had all his teeth removed and got dentures. He had really bad and crooked teeth and was tired of dealing with them. He asked me about having it done and I flat out told him I had no problem with it so long as he wore them. His mother never wears her's and I find that absolutely disgusting. He knows this also.
He does not wear them. I cannot kiss him on the mouth as it turns my stomach to stick my tongue in a toothless mouth! I also don't like to watch him gum food to death or talk without his teeth. He says they are uncomfortable and won't stay in. I tell him he needs to go back to the dentist and get them refitted. He says I don't understand as I still have all my teeth. We had a huge fight about it in August last year.
It is now almost 18 months later and he still does not have a job and still does not wear his teeth. He is also still insisting that I take care of everything like I did when he was out of country because "he doesn't want to be bothered with it."
I had to drive over there one weekend to take one of our dogs to the vet to get her shots, rear dew claws removed and spayed because he wouldn't take her. I told him to take her back the following Monday to have her bandages checked. He took her back during the vets lunch hour and couldn't be bothered to wait for the vet to return in less than an hour. Needless to say, when he took the dog back on Wednesday, the vet insisted on keeping the dog for a week and a half because the dog had messed up the dew claw removal wounds so badly and he wouldn't keep her from jumping and running. It cost another $350 for the vet stay.
I also had to bring our other dog back to our old city because she was depressed because he wouldn't walk her anymore so she would just pee where she was at and not move.
This is my third marriage. The first two lasted less than 3 years. I still love this man deeply but don't know what to do. He won't listen when I tell him straight he needs to find a job even if it is minimum wage and he needs to go back to the dentist to get his dentures fitted properly so he can wear them. I don't know what to do. I don't want to give up on my marriage just because he is unemployed and toothless but I also don't want to be the one who has to deal with everything, the only one that works and then have to deal with his toothlessness.
I realize I am not as attractive as I used to be as I now weigh 200lbs instead of 160lbs. I have started walking our other dog in the morning and evening and paying much more attention to what and how much I eat trying to lose the extra weight. I have been trying to stay busy with friends (female only) so I am not worrying about this situation so much but now I don't just don't know what to do. Please help.:crying:
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