I went to a Girls Night Out over the weekend with a few friends - none of whom know my situation at all so I did not contribute to this conversation, but I did trigger because of it.
The conversation turned to infidelity. 2 divorced women spoke candidly about how their WH's felt that once their affair was discovered by their wives ( neither husband confessed, just got caught during the PA's) that it was a relief for them to have it out in the open.. I found this shocking. A relief?? Really?? One wife was totally blindsided and destroyed by the discovery ( she even teared up at the bar telling her story) the other was already on to her WH's affair.
I find this confession of relief to be a selfish way for the WH to pass the burden of the pain on to their wives. A way to deflect the focus off of themselves.
Both PAs ended upon the wives discoveries and both couples divorced afterword. One tried to R, but the other went straight to the divorce.
Have any of you other BS's out there been told their WS was relieved that you found out?
The conversation turned to infidelity. 2 divorced women spoke candidly about how their WH's felt that once their affair was discovered by their wives ( neither husband confessed, just got caught during the PA's) that it was a relief for them to have it out in the open.. I found this shocking. A relief?? Really?? One wife was totally blindsided and destroyed by the discovery ( she even teared up at the bar telling her story) the other was already on to her WH's affair.
I find this confession of relief to be a selfish way for the WH to pass the burden of the pain on to their wives. A way to deflect the focus off of themselves.
Both PAs ended upon the wives discoveries and both couples divorced afterword. One tried to R, but the other went straight to the divorce.
Have any of you other BS's out there been told their WS was relieved that you found out?
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