My wife has just said she does not want to be married to me anymore. She does not trust me. I did grab her during an argument, and my son (13) called the cops and I was arrested. She went and got a PPO, and it was later modified for us to be able to attend counselling. She said in the second counselling session she does not want to be married. We have been married for 23 years, and have two kids (11 and 13, girl and boy). I abused alcohol, and am now in AA, and getting anger management counselling. I know grabbing was wrong, and am working on never doing that again. She says she lost trust.
Our marriage has been in some financial difficulty for the past several years. She is in charge of all the bank accounts and has been day trading for 6 years, and has lost a lot of money. I worry about providing for college and retirement, and all the things we want in life. I asked her to get a job for the past two years, and she is now working (and wants a divorce). I am not perfect, and I think what we did was deny each other things that the other wanted (intimacy, trust, etc). However, I want to save my marriage, this would have been the 4th time we have been in counselling. Her parents have come up from FL, and moved into my house. I am paying all the bills, and she has access to the bank accounts. I have no idea where her paycheck goes.
We have two businesses together as well.
I am being the gentleman so far, but I read about the 180? how does one do that with a PPO? Does it work? I have cried in front of her, she has as well. Please help
Our marriage has been in some financial difficulty for the past several years. She is in charge of all the bank accounts and has been day trading for 6 years, and has lost a lot of money. I worry about providing for college and retirement, and all the things we want in life. I asked her to get a job for the past two years, and she is now working (and wants a divorce). I am not perfect, and I think what we did was deny each other things that the other wanted (intimacy, trust, etc). However, I want to save my marriage, this would have been the 4th time we have been in counselling. Her parents have come up from FL, and moved into my house. I am paying all the bills, and she has access to the bank accounts. I have no idea where her paycheck goes.
We have two businesses together as well.
I am being the gentleman so far, but I read about the 180? how does one do that with a PPO? Does it work? I have cried in front of her, she has as well. Please help
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