Please Help Me. I am so confused and sad as well as ashamed. I have been married a very long time and spent much of the years trying to understand and/or overlook certain behavior from my husband. He is 11 years older than I so I thought much of my discomfort was due to my ignorance or lack of maturity. But two things have always been such a struggle for me. Lying and Masturbation.
1. Lying. He lies whenever he will be viewed as accountable. He makes stupid mistakes or bad decisions but instead of owning them, he lies. It has been useless for me to ask him about anything serious because I have no reason to believe anything he says.
2. Masturbation. This shocked me as a newlywed 21 year old many years ago. I thought once you were in a committed relationship the man would prefer his wife. I now read and understand the two are separate. What hurts me so much is he does more adventurous things with himself and has never even tried to introduce those to me. He says he doesn't want me to feel awkward and assumed I wouldn't want to do it. I was nearly a virgin when we married but he was a more experienced man. I have come to believe I must be boring to him.
Both the lies and the masturbation hurt me deeply. But now something else has happened and I am truly scared.
I learned yesterday, that when he goes out early in the morning he parks his truck at a small parking lot and masturbates there before the sun comes up. He especially likes to perform massage to his prostate.
I am a mixture of shock, fear, disgust and anger.
Please Please someone help me sort out what is going on....
1. Lying. He lies whenever he will be viewed as accountable. He makes stupid mistakes or bad decisions but instead of owning them, he lies. It has been useless for me to ask him about anything serious because I have no reason to believe anything he says.
2. Masturbation. This shocked me as a newlywed 21 year old many years ago. I thought once you were in a committed relationship the man would prefer his wife. I now read and understand the two are separate. What hurts me so much is he does more adventurous things with himself and has never even tried to introduce those to me. He says he doesn't want me to feel awkward and assumed I wouldn't want to do it. I was nearly a virgin when we married but he was a more experienced man. I have come to believe I must be boring to him.
Both the lies and the masturbation hurt me deeply. But now something else has happened and I am truly scared.
I learned yesterday, that when he goes out early in the morning he parks his truck at a small parking lot and masturbates there before the sun comes up. He especially likes to perform massage to his prostate.
I am a mixture of shock, fear, disgust and anger.
Please Please someone help me sort out what is going on....
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