Ok so I'm about to turn 24 years old, I've been married for 4 years now and I work for my dad at his restaurant. I have a cousin who also works there, she is a few years younger than me. She started dating one of our male coworkers, who happens to be "friends" with my husband.
I had never really been around my cousin before and didn't know much about her until she started working for my dad. She started becoming very friendly with me and wanting to hang out with me. Not long after we started hanging out together, she started telling me some very weird things about her boyfriend.
She randomly came up to me one day and told me that ever since we had started hanging out together, her boyfriend talks about me all the time. She said they got into a conversation about which one of their coworkers they'd have sex with. She said he told her that I was the only one that he would have sex with and then supposedly he made the comment that if he slept with me, he would make me forget all about my husband. She said they went out on a date together and he talked about me all night long. She said that he said I had the perfect body and that he would go into detail about specific parts of my body. The weird part is, she didn't seem to be mad or upset at all. It baffled me because if my husband was obsessing over some other woman I'd be furious.
Before this, she had told me about how bad he wanted to have a threesome and that it was one of his biggest fantasies. So I started putting two and two together. I thought maybe they were looking to have a threesome with me. I was disturbed by the thought especially since she's my cousin, but I just couldn't think of any other reason why she would be telling me all of this. She even invited me to an overnight trip that they took together at a theme park, they stayed at a hotel that night and everything. I thought it would be awkward going on a trip like that by myself with another couple so I didn't go. Later on, she tells me that it was all his idea that I go on the trip with them and then she proceeded to tell me that the whole time they were there, all he talked about was wanting a threesome.
So anyways, she told me not to tell my husband about any of this because she claimed she didn't want to ruin their friendship. I thought about it for a while and decided that he had a right to know. So I told him, and of course he was bothered by it but he said he wasn't going to confront him about it since he's never actually did or said anything inappropriate to me directly. He mostly just thought it was weird that my cousin was telling me this, and especially in such a casual way with no jealousy or emotions about it at all. He said it seemed like she was into the idea too.
I figured if they end their friendship over it, he's better off. Because anyone that's going to talk that way about someone's wife isn't really a true friend.
I also told my mom about all of this to get her opinion and she ended up telling my dad about it. Long story short, my dad got upset about it because this guy is someone that he considers a friend also, and he thought he could trust him. So he confronted him about it and told him that he basically needed to keep his inappropriate thoughts about me to himself and that he didn't want to hear anymore about it. Supposedly he denied saying most of that stuff about me, and all he admitted to was wanting a threesome but he says he didn't say with who. My cousin told me he really did say all those things about me and that he lied about it to my dad, probably because he didn't want my dad to knock the crap out of him.
So now my cousins boyfriend is mad at her for telling me and here's the insane part. My cousin started blaming ME for her boyfriend getting confronted about it. She said she told me not to to tell anyone and that she doesn't trust me anymore. She said that her boyfriend wouldn't have really tried to do anything with me and that it was all just talk, and that there was no reason for me to tell my husband or anyone else. And then she said that he didn't want me to go on their trip with them for anything sexual and that he just wanted to have fun and go on the rides. I told her if she wanted to blame anyone, to blame herself because she should have never told me in the first place. She started the whole thing. There was no point in telling me any of that. she said she told me because she thought I'd want to know, but I don't know why she would think id want to know something like that. I am perfectly happy with my marriage and have zero interest in someone like him. So now it's to the point where I don't really want anything to do with either one of them anymore. I'm pretty much done. I don't think she's being a true friend to me and I don't think her boyfriend is a true friend to my husband if he really said all that stuff, and he probably did.
Right before all this happened, she even told me that she got one of her friends to agree to have a threesome with them and that she had decided to participate. They even set a date for it and everything according to her. That alone should be enough to prove that they were really serious about it and that it wasn't just all "talk".
What would you have done in this situation? Would you have told your husband? Did I just take everything too seriously? Just wondering if there was anything I could have or should have done differently so I'll know what to do if this happens again in the future.
I had never really been around my cousin before and didn't know much about her until she started working for my dad. She started becoming very friendly with me and wanting to hang out with me. Not long after we started hanging out together, she started telling me some very weird things about her boyfriend.
She randomly came up to me one day and told me that ever since we had started hanging out together, her boyfriend talks about me all the time. She said they got into a conversation about which one of their coworkers they'd have sex with. She said he told her that I was the only one that he would have sex with and then supposedly he made the comment that if he slept with me, he would make me forget all about my husband. She said they went out on a date together and he talked about me all night long. She said that he said I had the perfect body and that he would go into detail about specific parts of my body. The weird part is, she didn't seem to be mad or upset at all. It baffled me because if my husband was obsessing over some other woman I'd be furious.
Before this, she had told me about how bad he wanted to have a threesome and that it was one of his biggest fantasies. So I started putting two and two together. I thought maybe they were looking to have a threesome with me. I was disturbed by the thought especially since she's my cousin, but I just couldn't think of any other reason why she would be telling me all of this. She even invited me to an overnight trip that they took together at a theme park, they stayed at a hotel that night and everything. I thought it would be awkward going on a trip like that by myself with another couple so I didn't go. Later on, she tells me that it was all his idea that I go on the trip with them and then she proceeded to tell me that the whole time they were there, all he talked about was wanting a threesome.
So anyways, she told me not to tell my husband about any of this because she claimed she didn't want to ruin their friendship. I thought about it for a while and decided that he had a right to know. So I told him, and of course he was bothered by it but he said he wasn't going to confront him about it since he's never actually did or said anything inappropriate to me directly. He mostly just thought it was weird that my cousin was telling me this, and especially in such a casual way with no jealousy or emotions about it at all. He said it seemed like she was into the idea too.
I figured if they end their friendship over it, he's better off. Because anyone that's going to talk that way about someone's wife isn't really a true friend.
I also told my mom about all of this to get her opinion and she ended up telling my dad about it. Long story short, my dad got upset about it because this guy is someone that he considers a friend also, and he thought he could trust him. So he confronted him about it and told him that he basically needed to keep his inappropriate thoughts about me to himself and that he didn't want to hear anymore about it. Supposedly he denied saying most of that stuff about me, and all he admitted to was wanting a threesome but he says he didn't say with who. My cousin told me he really did say all those things about me and that he lied about it to my dad, probably because he didn't want my dad to knock the crap out of him.
So now my cousins boyfriend is mad at her for telling me and here's the insane part. My cousin started blaming ME for her boyfriend getting confronted about it. She said she told me not to to tell anyone and that she doesn't trust me anymore. She said that her boyfriend wouldn't have really tried to do anything with me and that it was all just talk, and that there was no reason for me to tell my husband or anyone else. And then she said that he didn't want me to go on their trip with them for anything sexual and that he just wanted to have fun and go on the rides. I told her if she wanted to blame anyone, to blame herself because she should have never told me in the first place. She started the whole thing. There was no point in telling me any of that. she said she told me because she thought I'd want to know, but I don't know why she would think id want to know something like that. I am perfectly happy with my marriage and have zero interest in someone like him. So now it's to the point where I don't really want anything to do with either one of them anymore. I'm pretty much done. I don't think she's being a true friend to me and I don't think her boyfriend is a true friend to my husband if he really said all that stuff, and he probably did.
Right before all this happened, she even told me that she got one of her friends to agree to have a threesome with them and that she had decided to participate. They even set a date for it and everything according to her. That alone should be enough to prove that they were really serious about it and that it wasn't just all "talk".
What would you have done in this situation? Would you have told your husband? Did I just take everything too seriously? Just wondering if there was anything I could have or should have done differently so I'll know what to do if this happens again in the future.
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