Hi guys , im a guy in his second years of A Levels at college . Basically i've realised I have no true friends , though I am acquaintances with a number of people , and have groups of people i've gone out and done stuff with in the past – I have no one I can truly call my friend and fall back on.
One of my groups of friends are basically stoners, though they deny they are . From the start of the college year they've basically smoked every other day, they just sit stagnant in a room and call it socialising, I used to do it in the past just to spend time with them but the other day I confronted them about it and how I have ambitions in life and want to move on and we haven't really spoken since.
Then I've got another group of friends but these guys rarely even come out and don't make an effort with me as much as I make with them . I've asked them whether they wanted to meet up during half term / weekends etc and its always "I'm too busy studying sorry" I get that they want to prioritize studying but I obviously don't mean alot to them if they can't spare one Saturday to just hang out . We don't even text eachother outside of college really , i've organized to go clubbing with one of them after exams but I don't think he values me as much as I value him.
Aside from that i've got acquaintances scattered throughout college but they don't tend to make an effort with me and have groups of friends they're close with so it's hard for me to get time with them really . I don't have any friends within an hour of my house either , used to have a best mate who lived across the road from me but he moved and gradually began to go down the wrong path , we no longer talk. Apart from him my area is just full of chavs (its a somewhat bad area , but there are decent towns nearby) and I haven't found anyone I can relate with or have things in common. There aren't many opportunities for me to join clubs apart from football and such which I have no interest in so I didn't really have hobbies growing up apart from excessive gaming which I quit last year. I suppose I could travel to find clubs which interest me but I don't really know what i'm interested in strangely ... I would like to pick up an instrument but I doubt ill make friends that way , I like reading , theatre films etc but these are all rather solitary .
Anyone gone through similar realizations ? Any tips on how I can meet people again ? Apparently after 20 no one joins social groups and its much harder to make friends , I don't really want to be a loner for ever ... Also I'm taking a gap year after A2 so I can't rely on Uni , probably going to be alone the whole year
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