I met a guy I thought was perfect. We became inseparable over a few months and he said sweet things to me no one else had ever said. How happy he was with me, how much I meant to him, how he was gaining feelings for me, how I was the best and beautiful in every way. He told me he'd never felt this way before and I was better than his ex who had cheated on him with his friend.
I visited home and shortly after I noticed calls and how he kept receiving texts from an unsaved number. I asked and it came out when he was drunk how his ex had been back in touch after a recent relationship of hers had broken down, telling him she wanted to see him again missed him and had feelings for him. He told me he wanted me always had done and not to feel at all threatened. He kept telling me how he would stop contacting her and when I got mad grabbed me and assured me he was glad she cheated in him because if not he would have never met me.
He became more and more distant and the final straw was when my friend saw them chatting and her buy him a drink on a night out. He assured me they saw each other for 5 minutes. He then a few days later after my suspicions told me he wanted to go on a break to sort his head out. He no longer felt capable of a relationship as he had a history of manic depression and was all over the place. He still wanted me in his life, told me to never think he didn't care about me and that he still loved me. I've never seen anyone as confused and I put it down to a family bereavement and the stress was under finishing his degree.
He kept ringing me everyday and then he turned up to mine a few days later at 3.30a,m after a night out. I got a gut instinct something was wrong, my intuition was going crazy. I grabbed his phone having had enough and saw he'd now saved the number and read texts from her like, 'be round in 5' ..'miss you already' the biggest insult was that he'd been calling her and text saying do you not want to see me tonight 20 minutes before coming to mine. I was obviously furious, saved the number and asked him. He told me they'd seen each other but that nothing physical had happened but that it wasn't really working between me and him. He said he needed her right now as she knew him so well. We split up.
I saved the number on my phone and I text her being balsy. I introduced myself and told her I didn't think it was right if he had been sleeping with us both. She rang me telling me she did know about me, she got in touch a few weeks ago telling him that she missed him and they'd seen each other most days recently. He'd told her he couldn't be with me because I wasn't 'her', I was lovely but he didn't have feelings for me and was going to get me to break up with him. They'd recently visited his parents together and one night when i was doing my best to help him get over a family bereavement he'd texted her telling her he wished she was round not me.
He always used to say I didn't understand what a big deal him and his ex was, 18 month first love type thing. He apologised and apologised and apologied. He told me how it all hadn't been false, he meant everything but admitted he still had feelings for his ex to.. He was a coward and I was perfect and better off without him. Even though everyone told me to get rid we still talked most days, and he told me how he felt so stupid, he'd thrown away something decent for someone who isn't a nice person and he didn't want to be with. He wasn't getting back with her.
As you can imagine I have been so heartbroken over this. I need advice because the fact is despite this I have never felt so cared about by a guy in my life. I have asked him to meet me for a coffee for some kind of closure this week but deep down I miss him and I still love him and I hate that. What should I do?
I visited home and shortly after I noticed calls and how he kept receiving texts from an unsaved number. I asked and it came out when he was drunk how his ex had been back in touch after a recent relationship of hers had broken down, telling him she wanted to see him again missed him and had feelings for him. He told me he wanted me always had done and not to feel at all threatened. He kept telling me how he would stop contacting her and when I got mad grabbed me and assured me he was glad she cheated in him because if not he would have never met me.
He became more and more distant and the final straw was when my friend saw them chatting and her buy him a drink on a night out. He assured me they saw each other for 5 minutes. He then a few days later after my suspicions told me he wanted to go on a break to sort his head out. He no longer felt capable of a relationship as he had a history of manic depression and was all over the place. He still wanted me in his life, told me to never think he didn't care about me and that he still loved me. I've never seen anyone as confused and I put it down to a family bereavement and the stress was under finishing his degree.
He kept ringing me everyday and then he turned up to mine a few days later at 3.30a,m after a night out. I got a gut instinct something was wrong, my intuition was going crazy. I grabbed his phone having had enough and saw he'd now saved the number and read texts from her like, 'be round in 5' ..'miss you already' the biggest insult was that he'd been calling her and text saying do you not want to see me tonight 20 minutes before coming to mine. I was obviously furious, saved the number and asked him. He told me they'd seen each other but that nothing physical had happened but that it wasn't really working between me and him. He said he needed her right now as she knew him so well. We split up.
I saved the number on my phone and I text her being balsy. I introduced myself and told her I didn't think it was right if he had been sleeping with us both. She rang me telling me she did know about me, she got in touch a few weeks ago telling him that she missed him and they'd seen each other most days recently. He'd told her he couldn't be with me because I wasn't 'her', I was lovely but he didn't have feelings for me and was going to get me to break up with him. They'd recently visited his parents together and one night when i was doing my best to help him get over a family bereavement he'd texted her telling her he wished she was round not me.
He always used to say I didn't understand what a big deal him and his ex was, 18 month first love type thing. He apologised and apologised and apologied. He told me how it all hadn't been false, he meant everything but admitted he still had feelings for his ex to.. He was a coward and I was perfect and better off without him. Even though everyone told me to get rid we still talked most days, and he told me how he felt so stupid, he'd thrown away something decent for someone who isn't a nice person and he didn't want to be with. He wasn't getting back with her.
As you can imagine I have been so heartbroken over this. I need advice because the fact is despite this I have never felt so cared about by a guy in my life. I have asked him to meet me for a coffee for some kind of closure this week but deep down I miss him and I still love him and I hate that. What should I do?
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