I started my first ever relationship in late July, and at the time I was very happy being with her. But lately cracks have started showing, and I don't know what to do.
I'm busy all the time with my work, so I never get to see her. (I want to go to Oxford to study chemistry, whereas she's a lot less fussed about uni and such.) I feel really guilty about this, but I'm quite pragmatic so there's no way I'm going to blow off important assignments to hang out with her, which brings a strain on the relationship. But more importantly, I don't feel the same way about her anymore. I'm not as attracted to her, and I'm starting to notice that she's really quite immature and moody. It was fine at the beginning, but now it grates. She's still lovely to me, but I don't think we're very compatible.
The problem is, she doesn't seem to be picking up on all this. She said she loved me after only 6 weeks (!) of us being together, and I think she wants to move to the next level in our relationship (keeps wanting to get me alone in a room with her etc). I was with her earlier this week and she whispered 'I love you' at me, but I don't feel the same way (it's only been a couple of months!) and I've told her that but it only served to make her get really upset. I don't know what to do. We've only been together for three months and my mates always compliment her and say she's really hot and I picked a good one, so I feel pressured to stay with her. And she's only ever been really lovely to me, and she's honestly a good person, so I feel terrible when I think of breaking up with her, though I know I probably should.
Any advice? I'm so lost and confused :o
I'm busy all the time with my work, so I never get to see her. (I want to go to Oxford to study chemistry, whereas she's a lot less fussed about uni and such.) I feel really guilty about this, but I'm quite pragmatic so there's no way I'm going to blow off important assignments to hang out with her, which brings a strain on the relationship. But more importantly, I don't feel the same way about her anymore. I'm not as attracted to her, and I'm starting to notice that she's really quite immature and moody. It was fine at the beginning, but now it grates. She's still lovely to me, but I don't think we're very compatible.
The problem is, she doesn't seem to be picking up on all this. She said she loved me after only 6 weeks (!) of us being together, and I think she wants to move to the next level in our relationship (keeps wanting to get me alone in a room with her etc). I was with her earlier this week and she whispered 'I love you' at me, but I don't feel the same way (it's only been a couple of months!) and I've told her that but it only served to make her get really upset. I don't know what to do. We've only been together for three months and my mates always compliment her and say she's really hot and I picked a good one, so I feel pressured to stay with her. And she's only ever been really lovely to me, and she's honestly a good person, so I feel terrible when I think of breaking up with her, though I know I probably should.
Any advice? I'm so lost and confused :o
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